Second chance for a first chance?

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I've posted about this here before, but I thought I'd update my situation a little if anyone remembers it.

 

This girl and I have been friends and have worked together for a little over two years. During that whole time she had a boyfriend. Over time I could definitely tell that she had a crush on me because of the constant flirting. About six months ago we started hanging out together outside of work. Mainly going to the movies a couple of times, going to a concert together, hanging out at her place a couple of times. Completely friendly. Then back in August she broke up with her boyfriend and revealed to me that she had obviously had a crush on me. I said that I felt the same way about her and we were going to try to start dating or something.

 

Well, it didn't work out. I think I kind of got clingy and whiny and she said "let's just start over as friends". About a two and a half months ago she met this other guy and they've been dating ever since.

 

She says the reason she broke things off is because I stopped acting like myself. She said I started caring whether or not I would hurt her feelings and wouldn't say and do the things I used to do to make her laugh. I have to admit that this is true. She said things have gotten better lately but that I'm still not the same. The past two days I've made a conscious effort to act like used to.

 

I also found out yesterday that she is thinking about breaking up with this guy. A mutual friend told me that she said he's "starting to lose his flavor". For some reason this has given me a boost of confidence. Not just that I think things have a better chance of working out, but also because it doesn't seem like she was that serious about this guy in the first place. She seems to desperately want to at least stay friends with me and has practically begged me to "be me again".

 

Whatever happens though, the past few days have made me feel like anything can be possible in this situation. And I now feel better about us just being friends if that's what happens.