Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Well, this is something that happens every so often and I can say it always seems to catch me by surprise. I am in the supermarket minding my business when out of nowhere a woman just pops up. And I know there is more to it than just a shopper. It is just the way they linger a little. I am certainly not Brad Pitt. But, I get by. I have been know to get a second glance out of a gal here and there. So, this situation happens and I know it is on my shoulder to make it happen, to go from stranger to conversation and from there who knows. But, I have never been able to pull it off. In a way, if I could break through this I see it as perhaps the best way to meet women. But, my brain freezes and I am at a loss for words. This happens mostly shopping for groceries but it can happen anywhere. I am wondering if there are any women out there that would admit to at times placing themselves in a strategic way with a random guy that happened to be attractive to them. Because, after all, it may still be just my imagination since I have never really did a good job of pursuing this possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 i reamber when i liked my ex alot back in 9th grade, when he was at school of course i defiently changed my scdule around, i followed him....girls are like that...i wanted him to notice me big time Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I am wondering if there are any women out there that would admit to at times placing themselves in a strategic way with a random guy that happened to be attractive to them. Because, after all, it may still be just my imagination since I have never really did a good job of pursuing this possibility. I do it all the time. Next time, take a chance. What's the worst that can happen? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 I agree it is practically a no risk situation. It is just so frustrating because it happens over and over and I end up speechless like a shy teenager. It is almost humiliating to bring it up. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 oh dont worry, i think everyone can be like that at times, i meen they approach you when you least except it, if a really cute guy did that to me, my face would probaly turn red and my mouth realy dry its normal Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Nah, it shouldn't be humiliating to bring it up. Talking to a complete stranger isn't easy for everyone, certainly not for me. Supermarkets are easy though. Everyone likes food right? Just say hi and glance in her basket and tell her how much you love <whatever food item>. Or say hi and make a "recommendation" like if she's standing in front of the cookies tell her that Oreos are your favorite and she should experience them for herself, if she's interested she'll laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 teenager? well i am a teenager but you can still be shy as an adultt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Well, that`s the thing. I said teenager as an example because I have long left those shy,awkward years in the past. Except that inside, really not much has changed. So, I can do better in some situations. But in the example I give in this thread, it just seems to trip me up all the same. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Nah, it shouldn't be humiliating to bring it up. Talking to a complete stranger isn't easy for everyone, certainly not for me. Supermarkets are easy though. Everyone likes food right? Just say hi and glance in her basket and tell her how much you love <whatever food item>. Or say hi and make a "recommendation" like if she's standing in front of the cookies tell her that Oreos are your favorite and she should experience them for herself, if she's interested she'll laugh. Straight from the kittens mouth....write this down and head back to the market Neptune. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 one mental note to make...you can't go wrong with chocolate. If she says she doesn't like chocolate she's probably a dude in drag. just kidding. (serious about the chocolate part though) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 kitten chick, I could talk chocolate all day:) But today I should have been talking tuna. I was looking at all the canned and packaged tuna on the shelf. And then there is a woman with a quick hi and a smile. And a pause for awhile. The frustrating thing is it has been my experience that it is a one shot deal. Attractive gal and about the right age for me too. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 good lord I have a dirty mind she said hi to you?!?! what more do you need for her to start humping your leg? Alright, you're not allowed to let that happen again. have you ever done craigslist missed connections? I know people that have but I've never done it myself. I think you should give it a shot. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I've crusied those before.. I sometimes wonder if anybody ever meets up Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 kitten chick, Not even familiar with craig`s list missed connections but i think it is a cool concept. Heck, I may check it out and see. I have to see how it works. I don`t like to put personal info online much at all. Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Carpe Diem Neptune! The worst thing that can happen is you get a no. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 You gotta know when to play your pickup cards, there's a lot of times I don't bother talking to girls, cause I am not in the mood, or don't feel comfortable. There's always some cock-blockers trying to ruin your mood, and make you feel uncomfortable. Wether it's the guy at the subway counter working with that hot girl you wanna hit on, or it's the guys looking at cds in the store while the two girls you like are also in there. In public picking up girls can be like trying to have sex in the middle of the mall. It's embarassing for both of you, and everyone there is making you uncomfortable and turning you off big time. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 My sister's boyfriend is always getting missed connected. I have other friends that have found themselves being missed but this guy gets it all the time. Can't hurt right? Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 If she waved and smiled at you, that's pretty much an invitation to shop with her and pick her up. That was a card you should have played, last time I waved to some girls was at the mall on Friday and then I found out I knew the girl, I had no idea Then a couple weeks before some girls waved at me, and I was so turned on I couldn't approach them cause I wasn't wearing briefs that day. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 If she waved and smiled at you, that's pretty much an invitation to shop with her and pick her up. .. they call that the supermarket stalker .. One wave and cleanup on aisle 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Well, I check craig`s list missed connections. I think it is not good in this situation because I live too remote from a location. It is an extreme longshot. Not unless there is something about it I haven`t understood yet. But anyway, that is the way it is when you don`t act on the moment. Just gotta try to get myself to act when I should. That is why I figured women saying that they do intend for guys to approach them and will place themselves in a way for that to happen would encourage me. Intellectually you can know something but there sometimes is need for constant encouragement. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Then a couple weeks before some girls waved at me, and I was so turned on I couldn't approach them cause I wasn't wearing briefs that day. I know you're a troll and all but d@mn if that wasn't the funniest thing I read all day. Yes, Neptune, it's a long shot but it's better than no shot. I also live in a city so it might be more used here. Do you think you might run into her in the supermarket again? Maybe try going at the same time next week? Or maybe it was just a missed opportunity in which case next time don't miss it. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Intellectually you can know something but there sometimes is need for constant encouragement. I completely understand that. I'm a shy person too. It usually takes some pushing to get me to do something related to dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Oh yes, there is a good possiblity in due time of seeing her again. But there is no opportunity like missed opportunity. I believe that once a guy misses a shot when a woman makes a play for him it becomes much more difficult. Timing is everything. When a woman has set the timing and the guy doesn`t take the bait, it is an opportunity lost. I gotta do some homework on all that speed dating stuff. There really is something to it. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 speed dating stuff? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 speed dating stuff? Match does speed dating also.. and inAtlanta there are several speed dating clubs.. I couldn't do it.. meeting a new girl every 5 mins for an hour.. nuts.. Link to post Share on other sites
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