Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 The speed dating thing is suposed to be where a guy can walk up to a girl at random and close the deal in like 5 minutes. Been quite a while since I read anything about it and never really thought it something that would work for me. But, given that opportunity may meet you half way I should work on this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Actually calling it speed dating may be incorrect. I am not sure what it is called but I think this book called "The Game" is along those lines. Maybe it is properly called a pickup artist. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 The speed dating thing is suposed to be where a guy can walk up to a girl at random and close the deal in like 5 minutes. Ahhhh. That is called successful dating Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I have a friend that did speed dating. She's a funny girl anyway but she wrote the most hysterical email about her experience. I think those kinds of books are ok for guys that are shy and need a little help starting a conversation but (obviously) I'm not a big fan of them. Please please please do not teach yourself how to become a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Closing the deal in 5 minutes wouldn`t just be successful dating for me. It would be a miracle:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Closing the deal in 5 minutes wouldn`t just be successful dating for me. It would be a miracle:laugh: Are we talking about closing the deal or "closing the deal"? What are you saying to them that they wouldn't want to go out with you after a short conversation? I bet you're not as bad as you think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 I definitely don`t believe in trying to be a jerk. It may be an approach that will work and work well for some guys. But it goes against the grain for me. But I think that a lot of those pickup type books are sort of like that. That is why I am so out of touch on it. I just never could go in that direction. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 well then you sound like the kind of person those books were meant for. you have my blessing Or you could just take panhandler's approach and not wear any underwear. Then she'll know you're interested without having to say anything at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 It's a good approach actually, walking around with a stiffy I am very capable of drawing a lot of attention from women. heheh once I actually did this in a big mall, I mean it was a huge mall and I had no undies on, and I just went thru the mall feeling up girls at random, and I was very sensative and seemed like they were playing with me to get me stiffer as I fought the sensation. hehehe Quite fun indeed...when you talking about spontaneous fun that usually does the trick. But for a long term type relationship, it's better to start everything out on a friendly note, to not seem to aggressive, or easy for both parties. But some girls set their own rules for being friends, some might like the idea of you coming to see them at work, and seeing how that goes, or calling them on the phone, and seeing how that goes. Then they might want to hang out with you with a friend, and see how that goes. It's a slow process if you are looking for a real relationship and more on the friendly side than sensual. But it's good if there's some sensuality aiding it on, cause it moves a lot quicker. Then the girl lets you know she's more interested, but a lot of girls are nervous playing it hot like that in my experience. For me relationships generally start out pretty friendly and just get hot, friendship is sort of like foreplay before the actual intimate foreplay. But that is how you build the long term relationship. It always helps to have more in common at that point and make a genuinely interested impression. If I come off like a player sometimes girls get nervous that I'm playing them and turn cold for mr. old reliable boyfriend to fall back on. But yeah walking thru the mall with shorts on and no underpants is where it's at. I used to do this all the time it was better than sex for me, cause I'd score with several girls a minute. The only reason I did this was cause I was totally sedated, so definately not nervous, I was on tranquilizers and was depressed as hell. So I had a very liberal need, I didn't want any relationship I just wanted to feel up some girls. Only one time did a girl even say anything, hehe I goosed this lady at a target store and she said, excuse meeee'' like I should have said excuse me instead of running into her and grabbing her. I was gonna go do the same thing to these other ladies I seen just ahead, but then felt a little embarassed like she didn't like me. But what I found out doing that is that girls aren't really picky and don't mind if a guy is a little aggressive with his hands. If he really wants it...ehhh..they are complimented usually, especially good looking guy like me. Though I thought lowly of myself a tthe time cause I was depressed. Good old saying though that you can't rape the willing. I think even word had gotten out that I like to do this, and girls were setting me up to do it to them. In fact this girl in this store seen me feel up these two cute black haired college girls and then she set herself up for the same deal by putting her ass in my way, it was great. I recently had this girl actually give me a handjob practically in a spensers store with her friend right next to her. Cause she seen I was excited and she wanted some and I was behind her looking at what she was looking at and she just sort of kept brushing against me. But hehehe her friend didn't like me....cause I didn't take a shower and I was sort stinky. hehe don't blame her..but both total cuties, in fact the friend then had her ass in my way and I didn't do nothing to her cause I felt like it was a little too aggressive and felt like I was stinky and didn't want to offend or upset her. But turned out she was more upset I didn't touch her... But when I was in this real player mode, I was totally carefree. I had that sort of I'm not gonna live forever, I am so depressed I could care less what sort of trouble I get in, and I was so calm I could just sleep on any girl I touched. Plus I was so mad that girls were blowing me off, I had picked a few bad girls that I thought would like me to talk too during this time. That I had a sort of rapist mentality that girls are so stupid they should just be raped, cause they don't realize I'm sick, and obviously don't care that I'm in pain. Of course I wouldn't actually violent rape anyone and I just seen it more as flirting. But you know then during that time this really cute girl actually wanted to move in with me, and I could have slept with her easy, and stuff just played her like I would let her move in. But I dunno I just didn't take her all that seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I agree it is practically a no risk situation. It is just so frustrating because it happens over and over and I end up speechless like a shy teenager. It is almost humiliating to bring it up. Next weekend, dress up a bit and go to the hottest nightclub in town. Select the 3 best looking women in the club. Then, get a bit tipsy and one by one, make a move on the women. No matter what happens, after that chatting to a woman in supermarket will be a piece of cake. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Panhandler : From reading all your posts, I gather at this point you are a pervert besides a pedophile and like to randomly and intentionally brush up against women with your penis for a thrill. I gather you have no real life. Porn and your hand are your real friends. To the original Poster. You have it going on ! The girls do like you and if you could get a friend to practice while you talk about grocery items then when a girl winks at you and smiles you can say : nice squash or something lol. I think you already have what it takes. Just practice in the mirror. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 You could keep a mental note of various items in the store and ask the next lady who smiles at you if she knows where you can find one of them (obviously don't pick one that's in your aisle). Don't pick something silly like fruit but ask about something that might be an interesting food. If she's interested, she'll probably make a remark about the item and you're off in a conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
FataMorgana Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 kitten chick, I could talk chocolate all day:) But today I should have been talking tuna. I was looking at all the canned and packaged tuna on the shelf. And then there is a woman with a quick hi and a smile. And a pause for awhile. The frustrating thing is it has been my experience that it is a one shot deal. Attractive gal and about the right age for me too. hey, if this woman gave you a hi and a smile you could be talking about "dolphin free tuna" or whatever, who cares, she was waiting for you to make any comment so she can have the opportunity to laugh at it and make small conversation. Doesn't matter how goofy, better than nothing at all. She did go out of her way to start things up so, as kitten chick so rightly said, what have you got to loose? just give it a shot at something funny or goofy, if you get a laugh and soem nice comments back, you're in for more conversation. most of the times it realy is that easy to start the conversation. where do you take it from there is the hard part interesting posts about speed dating. Never tried it but would love to. Think about what about you could you present to someone to make them want to talk/see you again... hard but challenging:) ...your supermarket scenario is not that disimilar....and as for everything, practice makes things better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Neptune Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Thanks to everyone for the replies and support! It is good to posting about something that is not so overwhelming as many people here at LS are dealing with profound situations. Link to post Share on other sites
Panhandler Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 hahaha....well you can read into things what you want, but I have a good life. I am happy and carefree, though sometimes I long for a fullfilling stable relationship. I realize you can't have it all.....you have to sacrifice quality for quantity of time together. Link to post Share on other sites
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