Jennie aka "ALF" aka "burnt heart"....

[Laurynn]

Ya know Jennie, I was nice and responded to your post last week (you'd posted as 'burnt heart' and wrote about your b/f complaining that you don't cook dinner, the house stinks from the litterboxes, etc)....I knew it was you, but you are so relentless in posting with multiple names, whining and crying about your relationship, your life, etc..that I actually felt very sorry for you. But here are you are again, now posting as ALF.......why the HELL can't you just stick to one freaking name and use it consistently? Good God!

 

Anyone who's been here for any lenght of time KNOWS that your posts consist of the following (regardless of what name you use):

 

-bitching about your boyfriend, complaining that one minute you want to leave and the next minute he's being nice and you're confused

 

-you feel trapped

 

-constant problems with work.....can't seem to hold a job, say you feel bad about your b/f giving you money but still whining about having to work, a million reasons why you can't, don't like this job, don't like that job.

 

-constant complaining about your boyfriend putting you down and complaining about how you keep the house, the fact that you don't work, etc.

 

Honest to God, a monkey could identify your posts in 2 seconds flat.

 

I've been coming to this place for a year now....and for a full year, you've been posting here, about the same problems, using 235 different names. When are you going to get a grip and deal with your life/relationship/work situation like an adult? Do you honestly think that people here are going to solve your ongoing/never changing problems?

 

Jennie.....no relationship is perfect. There will always be ups and downs, no two people are clones. There are often bad times and good times. Even in the best relationships, there are always things that one person doesn't care for about the other person. That's called reality and life.

 

If you're always on the verge of leaving your boyfriend (who frankly, I'd like to nominate for sainthood for putting up with you instability and obvious neuroses), then just freaking well leave. But of course you can't, cuz you have no job and no money. So basically you're staying with him cuz you're using him, cuz it's clear you're not that happy. Piss or get off the pot, Jennie...and stop taking advantage of this Relationship Forum for the love of Christ.

 

Honest to God, I don't know how your b/f puts up with all this.......you're being on the Net all the time, you can't keep a clean house, house smells like dirty litterboxes, you have a million excuses as to why you can't even make him a decent dinner, you can't keep a job, you bitch and whine all the time, you have a zillion health complaints, bla bla. Please tell us his name so we can nominate him for sainthood.

 

And if after my sincere advice to you last week, about getting new litterboxes and keeping them clean, if you didn't bother to do something as small as that (to keep your home smelling nice and so that your poor innocent cats don't have to pee and crap in a filthy stinking box), then you don't even deserve cats.

 

Get a grip Jennie....and no, I'm not harassing you. I've been here long enough to be considered a regular, and I'm sick and tired of clicking on a post with an unfamiliar name and shortly after reading it, realizing that it's you and your sorry old sh*t, again.

 

L

[sparkle]

...for letting us know it was Jennie. I didn't even think about it being her, although the post did sound familiar.

 

Now I'm upset that I answered it. What a waste of my time. When I take the time to answer people's posts and then have those people come around month after month asking for the same advice, it is very frustrating!

[Dragonflys]

Yeah, this ticks me off a little.

 

I thought out two responses to the Burnt Heart posts, now I find they were whatshername again. No wonder there was no follow up.

 

I feel it is wrong to deceive people like this because posters who post once or twice with genuine concerns suffer.

[Tony T]

She has many aliases, but most frequently she uses Jennie. Recently, she has started using ALF and burnt heart.

 

The poster in question has, in my opinion, some very sad and complex psyhological issues. While we may be temporarily angry, frustrated, deceived, offended, etc., this lady must live with her problems on a more permanent basis. She may be incapable financially or otherwise to seek the competent professional help she sorely needs.

 

Very often, professionals do their very best to stabilize brain chemistry but are just not able to get the right balance to completely handle behavioral problems. Psychiatry is not an exact science.

 

While I share the anger, feeling of having been made a fool of myself, frustration, etc., I also feel very sad for an adult human being who carries on in such a childish manner...and repeatedly puts up the same identical problems.

 

I also feel very sorry for her guy, who must put up with this on a daily basis, if indeed he actually exists.

 

This is morbid pathology which requires immediate, and in my opinion, emergency attention. But, in the meantime, I hope we can temper our anger with compassion for a lady who obviously has issues far beyond what this forum was designed to address.

[Dragonflys]

but really I was more disapponted that her bahaviour here might dampen the enthuisiasm of responders who reply with care to genuine posts...like yourself.

 

I feel I wasted my time because I responded to an alias. If it were posted under the name Jenny, I would have felt I was responding to a human being.

 

I don't mind her posting every day under her own name, I certainly would respond if I felt it appropriate...

 

Really Tony, I'm not an insensitive boy!!

 

Oliver

[Tony T]

Yes, you are way way way way way way way way way way too sensitive. My post above was directed 99 percent to Jennie. I was hoping that you would pick up on that.

 

Be more kind to yourself!!!