angel0912 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Since a week and 1/2 after my ex broke up with me- I have tried my hardest not to give him any signs im still interested. NC wasn't an option (sorry for those supporters) but we are still good friends. We haven't discuessed the relationship, ever. I have a guy, who is my best friend, and nothing more, that I spend A LOT of time with- and people who know us got the impression something might be going on- I did nothing to dispel this to the ex (who is in the same circle of friends). Now my ex used to contact me often- initiating conversations on AIM and was even interested in my plans for a weekend when we were all planning on going away. However, the weekend prior I had gone to a hallowen party with my best guy friend, and the weekend we were away (following weekend) was when I had my "buddy" and the weekend after I brought a different guy to the football game...I have never given any explanations, nor have I been asked. However- all of these guys have just been friends, and I have been wanting my ex back since the day we broke up- but I am social, and prideful, and scared. Since then, he hasn't really been contacting me much- except wanting to/studying for our upcoming exams. But we still talk- and somedays things seem like the used to and sometimes there is this weird awkwardness- but when a mutual friend saw us hanging out together- she said that "he had no clue" i was still interested in him from my actions.... I still want him back- and have no clue if he is over me or not...sometimes it feels like he still looks at me in a way that is definitely not "just friends" but i don't know what it means...however- he has done nothing assertive on his part (but i don't know if that's my fault!) I am alright with the fact it would be his call to get back together- since he broke it off- but I certainly do not want to push him away from thinking thats an option!! What do you suggest I do (i.e. to let him know im still interested, without stating it or pushing anything) Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Nothing wrong wih making a play for him.. Try and have a talk with him about going out for a drink or coffee and see how he reacts.. If you don't get good vibes from that then let it drop.. Link to post Share on other sites
mini696 Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 He's jealous, and avoiding you helps to stop feeling that way. Whether he wants to be with you or not is only for you to talk to him about it. Link to post Share on other sites
cynicalnlove Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 He's jealous, and avoiding you helps to stop feeling that way. Whether he wants to be with you or not is only for you to talk to him about it. I did what you did. I had a lot of male friends, and I never knew my guy was so jealous. He would be silent, but to think of it now - how would you feel if he had did that? If he was seen with other girls, and says that you guys are just friends. Would you be jealous? Would you think that he's moved on? I mean, put yourself in his shoes. I think you would react the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts