Horaki Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 I was with a girl for 6 months, quit talking to all my friends. We recently split up and it feels like I grew up alot over the 6 months I was with her and I made contact with all my friends I pretty much quit talking to for this girl and when I hang out and stuff it's not the same it seems like the things I liked before I got with her I do not like now and all my friends are still cool but the stuff they do that i would be entertained by before is just not fun too me anymore. Seems like I grew up and everyone I knew is still in the same spot, i'm trying to find a new girl that I can get involved with but it's hard to do that when you don't go out cause everyone and everything is boring to me now, what do i do ? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 You sound depressed and lonely. Nothing feels good as it did before. I would work on yourself and not getting into another relationship because you are vulnerable right now. Slowly get back into the lives of your friends and never leave your friends behind in conquest for a girl. She may leave but you always have your friends. To be with someone and leave everything behind is not healthy. You cannot make that person your entire world because if something happens...well....you will be in the boat you are in now....sinking... Concentrate on YOU right now. In healing...then entertain the possibility of finding someone again. Link to post Share on other sites
jasmine111 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Seems like youre still suffering from the break up so it isnt wise to jump into another one. Why in the world did you ignore all of your friend for this girl? Did she take up that much of your life? Maybe you should find a some new friends if youve changed that much. But I think youre not having as much fun with your friends because youve lost contact with them for 6 months and arent as close. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Horaki Posted November 25, 2005 Author Share Posted November 25, 2005 Mary: Thank you for the advice I do realize now I should focus on me before others and don't put all my eggs in one basket. Jasmize : I ended up moving in with her, supporting her and her mom for the 6 months I lived tbere.She had no job so when ever I wasn't working i'd be at home with her and if I was'nt she'd get jealous and upset and honestly she's one of the most gorgeous girls i've ever seen so all I wanted to do was make her happy and please her, and yeah I do agree with you maybe I should just try spending more time with my friends and try to get back into the rythym of things and enjoy myself again. Update - I don't know if I made the right move but I'm her ride to work everyday and recently she's been telling me I love you when I drop her off, so then I questioned it and asked "Why do you say you love me if were not together" then we got into a big dispute ended up making up and getting back together. So I really don't know if getting back together with her is the right thing to do right now but the cool thing was Tuesday we got back together and wednesday night my friend called me and I ended up going out and having a great time at a party so now I have my girl back and my friends and loving life right now! ;o Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I was with a girl for 6 months, quit talking to all my friends. Excuse me, but for what reason did you stop talking to all of your friends? If you think friends are something you can just put on hold when you meet someone to date, then you don't appear to have any concept of real friendship. I have heard of people doing this and can't believe it. Both you and your girlfriends need lives, friends, and things to do OUTSIDE of your relationship. So keep that in mind next time and you'll both do a lot better. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 Sorry but it sounds like she is using you. She is gorgeous and she knows it. She is using her looks to get you to give her rides and money. She was not working and expected you to help out. That does not sound like love. At least on her part.... Get you another pretty girl who cherishes you ! Please forget this one and her head games of " I love You " when you give her a ride or money ( ect ) ..., Link to post Share on other sites
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