How do I know if I suffer from depression?

[mememememe]

How do I know? Sometimes out of nowhere I feel like everything is my fault. Everything. I feel like an idiot and it is crazy, because I have so many acquaintances and friends and a TON of guys falling at my feet. But because I can't value myself on others, I look inside, and sometimes I feel SO alone. Other times I feel SO great just being alone.

 

I am passive-aggressive with men I have realized. I am so scared of rejection that I don't know how to behave, however I come off as ultra-confident, together, etc. I have met amazing men who, when they first meet me and talk to me, pursue me immediately. But, it seems, the ones I am interested magically back off after one equally amazing date. I'm not pushy, I do show interest, but after that, I totally lose it in terms of even knowing if I should call, text, etc. So usually I do nothing and end up alone as usual.

 

So I guess I have several issues going on here. I have only had one STEADY guy, and I aimed "low", I now realize, because I was playing it safe. I used to go for guys that were "below" me in some ways. It sounds cruel but there are all different leagues in dating. I am hardly interested in most guys in general, and the very few ones I am aren't interested in pursuing me.

 

My thoughts and feelings are full of contradictions. Full of them. One part of me knows I am very attractive, intelligent, GO-GETTER, passionate about life, sensitive, giving, etc. I have no problem getting a job, getting to any place in life. THEN I flip-flop; my therapist told me that I intimidate some people, despite being kind and accomodating...that my presence is just so. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?

 

Does any of this sound familiar? Can anyone tell me what depression is? Is it an altered perception?

 

I find that my perception is often so skewed and I kick myself for the torture I learned I have put myself through once I find out the person I thought was avoiding me has been in Japan for a month or something like that.

 

Help I feel so inconsistent.

[airforcemama]

depression is a feeling of being hopeless..not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel..if you know what i mean.people who arent depressed feel down and sad at times but they never think of it as the total end of the world to the point that they start having suicidal thoughts.being weak, not wanting to get out of bed and always feeling like a zombie is what depressed is..suicidal thoughts...as far as men go..i feel the same way..i try to do everything perfect because if i get rejected or dumped it just kills me.take my advice, i cant tell you if you are depressed or not but back to the thing about men..you know what ive learned to do, who cares what they think of you, stop giving and just be you!!dont act different or pretend to like or dislike something just because they do or whatever it might be that you do..just be yourself ad forget about what they think..trust me you can tell when a person is acting himself or not,right? so remember that! be you and if you want a second date then say so!! tell them to call you!!

 

 

 

 

How do I know? Sometimes out of nowhere I feel like everything is my fault. Everything. I feel like an idiot and it is crazy, because I have so many acquaintances and friends and a TON of guys falling at my feet. But because I can't value myself on others, I look inside, and sometimes I feel SO alone. Other times I feel SO great just being alone.

 

I am passive-aggressive with men I have realized. I am so scared of rejection that I don't know how to behave, however I come off as ultra-confident, together, etc. I have met amazing men who, when they first meet me and talk to me, pursue me immediately. But, it seems, the ones I am interested magically back off after one equally amazing date. I'm not pushy, I do show interest, but after that, I totally lose it in terms of even knowing if I should call, text, etc. So usually I do nothing and end up alone as usual.

 

So I guess I have several issues going on here. I have only had one STEADY guy, and I aimed "low", I now realize, because I was playing it safe. I used to go for guys that were "below" me in some ways. It sounds cruel but there are all different leagues in dating. I am hardly interested in most guys in general, and the very few ones I am aren't interested in pursuing me.

 

My thoughts and feelings are full of contradictions. Full of them. One part of me knows I am very attractive, intelligent, GO-GETTER, passionate about life, sensitive, giving, etc. I have no problem getting a job, getting to any place in life. THEN I flip-flop; my therapist told me that I intimidate some people, despite being kind and accomodating...that my presence is just so. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?

 

Does any of this sound familiar? Can anyone tell me what depression is? Is it an altered perception?

 

I find that my perception is often so skewed and I kick myself for the torture I learned I have put myself through once I find out the person I thought was avoiding me has been in Japan for a month or something like that.

 

Help I feel so inconsistent.

[jhiatti4i]

I suffered from depression a while back. Right after I graduated Highschool. I will be honest you know if you are suffering from depression, you don;t need to ask any one on this forum. To be really honest with you, most people give bad or wrong advice. I think you have to find out for your self. It is kinda the society we live in. Everyone is out to be perfect, the think is that isn't possible, which results in depression. You are who you are. I say just do some research. Depression is a bit*h but there are meds and other things to get rid of it.

[whichwayisup]

I will be honest you know if you are suffering from depression, you don;t need to ask any one on this forum. To be really honest with you, most people give bad or wrong advice. I think you have to find out for your self. It is kinda the society we live in. Everyone is out to be perfect, the think is that isn't possible, which results in depression. You are who you are. I say just do some research. Depression is a bit*h but there are meds and other things to get rid of it.

 

Noone is perfect, and noone has a perfect life.

 

Jhiatti4i, I kinda have to disagree with you. This person is reaching out, needing support and honestly the advice given on the other thread (same topic) has been helpful.

 

Therapy is needed, to understand the depression, talk about the issues and how to deal/cope with things in life. And if meds are needed, the DR will find the right one to use. I'm not a med person, I do suffer from anxiety attacks, and probably had some minor depression in the past 4 years, but to tell a poster NOT to ask for advice is wrong. It's helpful and makes the person feel heard, understood and not alone.

[Outcast]

http://www.depression.com/understanding_depression.html

 

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depression.cfm

 

Sites have self-tests and a lot of information on depression.

[lovestobesexed]

Go and talk to you doctor and dont be afraid or embarassed like I was.

After months of being a recluse in my own house and being ashamed of being depressed I went to my doctor.

We talked and he prescribed me a prescription and hooked me up with a counsellor. Six months later I felt better.

I am glad that I reached out to him, otherwise who knows what would have happened to me.