rockell Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I had felt something was wrong then had caught my boyfriend online on an online dating site. I had known he had an online profile from before we had started dating and Iwas checking to see if he was visiting this site. He was. He never confessed to cheating and said he was there looking at "the articles and stuff". We broke up and after alot of mutual hard work and time built up a a relationship again. Months later, I am at his house and alone with his computer when I nosily check his computer history. He had visited this site earlier in the week and I could see that he was looking at and bookmarking other women's profiles. Women who live in his nieghborhood. He did not send messages to any of these women. I am unsure as to whether or not I have the stength to break up with him for "browsing". Im tempted to bring up in a casual and non threatening way, a confession that I was spying and apologize to him, waiting to see how defensive or scared he gets about what I might have seen. Then gauge his reaction when he finds out what I saw. I am also tempted to keep spying and see if I can find anything else. I really don't want to spy because I think at that point the relationship is pretty doomed. If you need proof it is already too late right? Does any one have any opinions on how I should react to this?? So sad and dissapointed in him:lmao: Rockell Link to post Share on other sites
CoolAunt Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 It sounds like he may have a sex addiction. He hasn't cheated as far as you know, but he gets a thrill from the browsing and secrecy. If you really want to stay with him, you should check into it and learn about sex addictions. Here's a message board where you can learn from women who've been where you are now. http://lightwave.proboards48.com/ Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author rockell Posted November 25, 2005 Author Share Posted November 25, 2005 It was not a sexual connections site only dating but I think you may be right that he is getting some self esteem from looking at other women Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted November 25, 2005 Share Posted November 25, 2005 I think the main thing you need to ask yourself is are you willing to stay in a situation where he is visiting these sites and bookmarking other womens profiles etc. I think you need to to have a heart to heart with him and see if you can get to the root of why he feels the need to do this. His self esteem doesn't or shouldn't have to come from other people. Wheather his self esteem is low or not he should be getting whatever he feels is missing from the relationship from you. You're the one thats in the relationship with him, not these other women. Tell him how this makes you feel and if he continues to do this then it may be time to move on. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted November 28, 2005 Share Posted November 28, 2005 Comfront him and tell him he needs to get off this thing he is doing or your realtionship is over and you can move on to someone that is deserving of your love and not gawking at other women and waiting to see what better is out there and marking these profiles!!! Good luck:) Link to post Share on other sites
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