Separated at the velvet rope

[Ryan S]

OK, my first post here.

 

A little background first. I’m 26, my fiancée is 23. She is an only child, & has been “daddy’s little princess” all her life. She’s a little spoiled. OK, a lot spoiled.

 

Anyway, a couple weeks ago we’re going out clubbing. She looked HOT, in a red dress. I thought I looked nice too, wearing a nice shirt & khaki pants. We get to the door of the club, the doorman scopes her out & lets her through.

 

Well, apparently I didn’t pass inspection, because he wouldn’t let me in. I called out for her to come back & we’d go someplace else. She looks at me like I’m crazy, & goes “Well, my friends are already in there, I’m going in with them,” then disappeared through the door, leaving me standing on the sidewalk.

 

I stood there for a couple minutes, thinking she might realize what she did & come back out (didn’t happen), then I left. Went to a sports bar & spend a couple hours watching the game, then drove home.

 

Then at 3 am (after I’d been in bed about 2½ hours), the phone rings. She’s calling, wondering where I am. I told her I left & went home. So she wants me to come out & get her & her friends. I was pissed, & told her to take a cab or something, then hung up.

 

She calls later, & we got into a huge fight about why did I leave her there. If she wants to party with her friends what was my problem. One thing led to a another, & I told her maybe we should re-think getting married. Man, did she flip out when I said that!

 

So now she hasn’t called in a couple weeks, doesn’t take my calls, & won’t return messages. Went by to see her, hoping we could talk, but she doesn’t come to the door.

 

Part of me says that better I find out about things like this now, & that maybe I don’t need to be in this kind of a relationship. But I still love her. I think she’s basically a good person, & she’ll grow up.

 

What do you all think? Did I do the right thing? Did I blow it? Any ideas how to fix this?