...I think I want to end my marriage

[FWIW]

As for judging you and dismissing your situation... you're right. I am judging you and dismissing your situation.

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your complaints remind me of the whining of a child who has a house full of every desireable toy imaginable and is throwing a fit simply because she can't figure out how enjoy what she has.

 

I have nothing but pity for you and sincerely hope you will eventual grow up and learn to appreciate and enjoy what you have.

 

How lovely! There you have it Cent, Dith, and others; you're NOT ALLOWED to feel disatisfied with a duff relationship because you're married, DA says so. If you were simply dating, no problem, but the Pro-Stick-With-It-No-Matter-What Voice-of-Marriage-Is-Sacred says you must live with it. So what if you were young and didn't fully appreciate how things change, no, there's no escape!!!

 

I recommend No Contact with DA

[Scott S]

More second marriages end in divorce than first marriages. Doesn't this fact lend some support to a claim that many people who thought a different spouse/partner was the answer were wrong?

 

My first marriage ended for all practical purposes about a month before our 6th wedding anniversary, shortly before my ex-w moved out to be with her new love interest.

 

My second (and present) marriage is approaching the 10-year mark. I believe that the significant differences are:

 

1. The kind of person I am now as opposed to then

2. The kind of person Gina is

3. A more mature attitude towards the relationship

 

I know I entered my first marriage for the wrong reasons, & that both of us brought unreasonable expectations into it. I certainly regret the errors I've made, but I have taken the lessons gained therefrom into my present marriage.

 

And no, it's not all wine & roses. We have struggled with a lot of issues over the years. But we have taken a different approach, that is, that we love each other, that we will work through them, & that throwing in the towel is not a viable option.

 

So, a different spouse/partner is not the whole answer. A different atttitude is more important, otherwise it's simply a case of "Same Sh*t, Different Day."