Rob Posted July 14, 2001 Share Posted July 14, 2001 I'd just thought I'd ask if any of you other guys on this board are as P.O.'ed as me about the fact that it seems every decent woman you can ever get yourself to care about has to be some kind of partying, drinking, wild girl who has to spend every weekend getting drunk and partying. I hate it. You think she's a wonderful girl, and then you have to hear stories of what she does on the weekends. I'm through waiting for the women in my area to mature. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted July 14, 2001 Share Posted July 14, 2001 hi rob, i'm not a guy, but i'll throw in my two cents worth while i'm here. perhaps it would help if before you got involved with a girl you were to establish if they have the whole "crazy partying" thing out of their system yet. i don't think there's anything wrong with a person wanting to party a lot, but if it's not something you want or you can make a compromise over, then you certainly need to steer clear of these chicks (especially younger ones). i know a few couples who haven't worked out because one is over the whole "party every weekend" bizzo, and the other is not. weekends are the time you want to spend time with your partner, and if your idea of what you should spend that time doing clashes, then the relationship sure won't be going anywhere fast. you can avoid getting involved with what has obviously been the wrong girls if you establish what you want early on. there are actually many girls out there who couldn't give a crap about partying every weekend. once in a while is ok, and there's nothing wrong with getting drunk ocassionally, but i think getting drunk every weekend is a major turn-off. i also think partying is so much more fun when you're not doing it all the time. it gives you something to look forward to and it's good to chill out with your partner without one of you feeling like crap the next morning. ....and if you're hearing stories that she's getting up to no good on weekends, consider yourself lucky that you actually found out that you're not a good match, so you can get rid of her. don't worry, there will come a time when you won't think you have a wonderful girl...you will *know* you have a wonderful girl. like i said, there are actually a *lot* of girls out there who aren't big party animals. best wishes Link to post Share on other sites
marzipan75 Posted July 14, 2001 Share Posted July 14, 2001 We aren't all that way. I'll tell you something, I was an occasional "party girl" and had a boyfriend for 8 years who ended up cheating on me recently and breaking up with me. Now, I'm a "party girl". Guys do this too and usually you hear about guys being out "partying" and the girl is the one who is more mature. It's refreshing to get your point of view. If it's a reason you are looking for try plain old boredom. I just broke up and I've been going out non-stop nearly every weekend. It's the boredom of sitting at home wondering what you guys are up to. I think you might be being a little bit unfair in this partying thing because guys do it just as much as girls do. And remember, "Girls just wanna have fun". Also, Don't say you're through with women because whenever you are least looking for a relationship is when it's most likely to find you. Never give up. It sounds like you've been hurt and it's so justifiable that you feel that way but I think you may feel differently in time. Hope this helps. Don't give up, if I haven't why should you? I'd just thought I'd ask if any of you other guys on this board are as P.O.'ed as me about the fact that it seems every decent woman you can ever get yourself to care about has to be some kind of partying, drinking, wild girl who has to spend every weekend getting drunk and partying. I hate it. You think she's a wonderful girl, and then you have to hear stories of what she does on the weekends. I'm through waiting for the women in my area to mature. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 14, 2001 Share Posted July 14, 2001 I think it may have more to do with the circles in which you travel, the places you go, and the ages of the ladies you may be interested in. Since I was in high school, I have always found great females who were not drinkers, not excessive partiers, and with whom I had a great time. I will say that even some great gals know how to party in moderation and it doesn't affect them as people. To this day, I think those partiers are limited to a small percentage of ladies...most of whom may live in your town. I give you hope. There are wonderful ladies out there who would make you very happy. Keep looking...but in the right places. Link to post Share on other sites
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