Still_In_Love Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Ok, Some may have read previous post of mine, but in a nutshell, I was dumped 3 months ago and was devasted. I have practiced NC and done very well. Last week I caved in and wrote an email saying Hi, I miss you! No response so I am back to NC and moving forward for the most part! On the weekend, mutual friend of mine told me that my ex-gf has kept all previous emails of mine (sonce she dumped me)...Why? Why would the dumper keep emails after they were the one to walk away?? I just wondering if anyone has any rationale about this? Link to post Share on other sites
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 Probably because you told her all nice things in them and she might still go over them sometime to make herself feel better... i still have a valentines card and a poem from an ex of 6 years ago... simply because it was a nice card and beautiful poem about me! You like me are wondering and obsessing about whether our recent exes are EVER thinking about us, i'm pretty sure if she is driving down past my road or in the area or if she visits places that i introduced her too she would have a thought about me i'm sure dumpers have associations with us as well although maybe not the painful ones! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 29, 2005 Share Posted November 29, 2005 I have no idea.. maybe she wants to remind herself of why not to call you.. or maybe she still has feelings for you.. Does it matter ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Still_In_Love Posted November 29, 2005 Author Share Posted November 29, 2005 You like me are wondering and obsessing about whether our recent exes are EVER thinking about Yes I would agree that I do wonder but obsessing...no! Does it matter ? No, not really...I think it was more wondering why people would keep emails and for what reason? Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Yes I would agree that I do wonder but obsessing...no! No, not really...I think it was more wondering why people would keep emails and for what reason? I broke up with my ex-fiance in 2002, I still have all her emails to this day, I dunno, they did hurt a bit to read (even though I dumped her) but it's cute to look back on them cos it was a lovely relationship and I still love her and always will (not in love though). With my recent ex everything went a few weeks after we broke up, I want no memories around me at the moment cos it was too painful and dissapointing.. I suppose it depends how they act to you, my ex-fiance was lovely after our split, but my recent ex (who dumped me) turned into a class A bitch. Link to post Share on other sites
iheartyou Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 i think she just wants an ego boost Link to post Share on other sites
J dub Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 >Last week I caved in and wrote an email saying Hi, I miss you! No response so I am back to NC and moving forward for the most part! At least you know now to stop trying to contact the ex. >On the weekend, mutual friend of mine told me that my ex-gf has kept all previous emails of mine (sonce she dumped me) Did you ask the person telling you this WHY they felt the need to share this information? Perhaps they have some idea as to why you should know. >Why would the dumper keep emails after they were the one to walk away?? I keep emails from everyone: exs, old bosses, former friends and family I havent spoken to in years. Who cares? If you think it means she wants you back, forget it. She'd have responded to you immediately if it were the case. Dont stress yourself out about why your ex does the things they do. Sometimes THEY dont even know...and you'll probably never get a definite answer from them anyway so your speculations are merely wasting your time when you could be focusing on getting yourself better. Link to post Share on other sites
Kengne II Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 I've kept emails too. But I've also deleted some of these same 'caring' emails. It really doesn't mean anything. At the end of the day - if she wants you back she will contact you, and not just re-read the emails from the past. That's living in the past, IMO -> not cool. Stop focusing on what she is/isn't doing and continue on w YOU and YOUR life. K. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 I keep all old emails. I don't read them ever, I just don't bother deleting/throwing away. I wouldn't read too much into it. It does mean she likes to hold on to things from her past - not necessarily that she wants you back. Link to post Share on other sites
sunaddict1 Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 i keep all my old emails...i like to reread them sometimes to get an ego boost. who wouldnt! You need to stop emailing her. if she wanted you back...so would have written you....she is obviously getting your emails. you need to tell that person to stop informing you about her. they are giving you false hopes! i know it is hard to hear...but you need to stop! It is the hardest thing to do....but you need to stand up for yourself and leave her alone! Link to post Share on other sites
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