justin_83 Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 How can i find out if my ex changed me for someone else. She was trying to break up with me for a month allready. Last Saturday she called me and said that its over.. i don't believe in this so now i'm trying to find out how can i find out if she changed me for someone else. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 If she said it is over.. then it is over.. Finding out if she is dating someone won't change anything.. She is no longer dating you so therefore she is able to date anybody she pleases. Believe her.. it is over Link to post Share on other sites
Author justin_83 Posted November 30, 2005 Author Share Posted November 30, 2005 If she said it is over.. then it is over.. Finding out if she is dating someone won't change anything.. She is no longer dating you so therefore she is able to date anybody she pleases. Believe her.. it is over I lost her for now.. just for the moment.. i won't loose a fight without trying to fight.So i spent with her 3 years of my life.. i think i want to know who is the punk that took her away from me... Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 I lost her for now.. just for the moment.. i won't loose a fight without trying to fight.So i spent with her 3 years of my life.. i think i want to know who is the punk that took her away from me... Justin... dude... it's done. It's not a fight, it was a decision. The three years were not a waste, it's just that these things happen. After all, you would have been around for those three years anyway, whether you were with her or someone else. So chill. Relax. Have a cigar. Link to post Share on other sites
dontwanttoloosehim Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 please please please. Dont even try to bother please. From experience it only makes you feel worse. I should listen to my own advice as well! I use to snoop but all it has borught to me was frustration and its jusy destructing. please please please I know its hard but dont even try to find out just try to move on for now. If it was meant to be she will come around and tell you if she was with someone else. For now just think of the postive . I read somewhere if we knew how powerful our thought were we would not ever think negatively. So please try to let ti go for now just for now. I feel for you because I have been through the what if and how can i find out and the snooping its very very painful. Dont make it worse on yourself. hugs!! Link to post Share on other sites
jacked17 Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Yeah if I were you I wouldnt' want to find out because I just went through something like that where I found out my ex was dating someone else and it just makes everything hurt so much more when you know when they're together and if you're like me you overanalyze everything and your imagination can run wild. When you're talking to her and she's telling you about another guy it's not a very good feeling and it just causes you to be even more upset because you wonder why she picked him over you. I wouldn't advise finding out because it will just prolong getting over her. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 How can i find out if my ex changed me for someone else. Stalk her. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Its not worth the effort. If your thinking of attacking some guy over this think again. Knocking out the teeth of a guy who has no idea what is happening is no way to make you feel better. You will look like a violent nutcase, if you stalk her (I know it was said tongue in cheek) you will look like a stalking nutcase. Leave it alone, get with your own life, its all much better than way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author justin_83 Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 thank you guys for all your help.. the way i look at it.. i gave her everything she allways wanted.. and i mean everything.. starting with a new life,car,ring,clothes etc. and all i wanted in return it was a nice relationship that i did get sort of from her.. i wanted to marry her.. GOD how stupid i was. Everything it was fine till last month on Thursday when she wanted to go golfing on Saturday , with one of her cooworkers..some David that i never heard about to begin with she allways told me that she hates golf.well i told her why can't you wait for me so i can get out of office and we can go toghether and i'll meet your new friend, guess what! she told me "No,no its ok.. i'll go and practice and we can go some other time.. So supposelly i didn't let her do that..but i know for a fact that she went golfing(by the way i hate golf now) now she told me that she made a mistake and that she woke up and realised that we are not ment for each other and that we have different views about life.. So for the past 3 years we did and now we don't sounds pretty ****ed up if you ask me.. What i am going to do is ,i'll spend another $1000 and i will hire a private investigator.. but i will get to the bottom of this B.S. Thanx once again for all your help. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 What i am going to do is ,i'll spend another $1000 and i will hire a private investigator.. but i will get to the bottom of this B.S. Thanx once again for all your help. Stalking her is not the answer.. First.. She was NOT your wife.. she was your GF..So your wanting to put an end to the bullshoit is invalid.. She put an end to it.. she broke up with you And secondly.. your heart is shattered.. Welcome to life.. You need to force yourself to get over it so you won't be jaded and carry it to your next relationship.. And yes.. hiring a PI is stalking.. you are in for a restraining order and a meeting in front of a judge if this blows up.. The last I knew it costs about 2500-5000 to hire a PI.. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 A_C, the dude's not gonna listen to good, solid and reliable advice. He's probably going to get himself arrested for stalking, the record of which will dog him for the rest of his days. For what? Beats me. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 What i am going to do is ,i'll spend another $1000 and i will hire a private investigator.. but i will get to the bottom of this B.S. Thanx once again for all your help. Wish I could blow a $1000 like that, but I'm too young to spend my money foolishly. Link to post Share on other sites
omegaRED Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Dude... Chill. You`ll find out if she has another man or not. As Art_Critic said, she was you GF, not your wife. And why on earth would you want to spend som much money on something that`s not gonna make any difference. In the end, does it matter if she has someone else? How will that change the things between you two? It won`t. You two are not together anymore. You`ll find out the reasons sooner or later. The truth comes out, always. Link to post Share on other sites
Clevelandfan Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Sounds to me like she's not worth 2 cents the way she acted toward you. Women don't like to break up and be left out in "deep water" without a life preserver. She was probably looking and getting over you for some time while you thought things were still okay. It is sad, but probably true. Look at it this way, if she is a cheater,..then she is also a LIAR and not trustworthy with your money or your future child, so you are better off in the long run. I know it hurts, my ex was really a vile woman but in the end, I think she will regret her actions toward me especially when she realizesthe grass just isn't greener on the other side. Then again, maybe she won't. You will finally be over her when you really don't care anymore. I'm not quite there yet but I'm pretty damn close Hang in there and by all means, DO NOT start stalking her etc,... If she is going to "wake up", the only way that will happen is if you keep NC and she has to find YOU. If you chase her, she will lose respect for you and push you away further. Usually that's the way it goes. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Bros before hos, remember that. Listen to male advice, female advice is 50% accurate. Link to post Share on other sites
simon sez Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 She already has someone else. GUARANTEED... Your best bet to get her to come back is to leave her alone, immediately start dating other women, and wait for her to come POUNDING on your door to get back with you. You are WAAAAAY to easy and acting to much like a wimp. Women are not attracted to wimpy men who buy and do anything for them. Women PREFER to chase. Let her find out you are seeing another woman and then watch her come running back. Let her think that you wanted this break as much as she did.... Link to post Share on other sites
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