random tears Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 SSOOOOO.... I am at a spot in my life where I am not sure if I should just move on.....my b/f of almost 2 years has been getting pretty unbearable lately..... I have NEVER seen him take so much time on his appearance as he does lately....shaving sometimes 3 times a day, trimming nose hairs, washing his work shoes...etc.... One could pass this up as taking pride in ones appearance, but lately he seems to be ignoring me COMPLETELY...... When I confront him on the things that make me feel insecure or angry I am actually given a time limit and even then I have to share my time with the television....in between commercials..... I have went out of my way to dress up and look nice, the whole 9 yards, curl my hair, new clothes and shoes, accessories., you get the idea....and when he comes home, he never noticed......never said "you look nice" never said anything..... Yet he gets extremely jealous if other guys notice me....really jealous, the dark type, the confrontational type of jealous..... He does things like tell me he will be home at a certain time and then 2 hours later I call him to find out where he is and he wont answer the phone...because he knows the number I am calling from is the house number..... but he WILL answer when I call from a payphone and blurt out "im busy, im working, i gotta go" and if I make a big scene (anything that questions him is a big scene) he will put one of his work buddies on the phone to "prove it"...which makes me look like a jealous idiot.....with his work buddies laughing in the backround... I told him that i do not think I can hang with this anymore, and he said "you need to believe me, you need to trust me, you need to not be jealous"......and he basically wont let me leave him...... BUT....Why does he want me around? neither of us at this point seem to be doing alright....he keeps saying he loves me, but whenever he mentions the word "love" he looks up and to the left.....and that I need to believe in him..... What is he up to???? What is with the sudden appearance change? And another thing...he has a really good best friend that just came back into town, and yet whenever that person calls his cell, he ignores it or I will catch him walking out of the house around the side to take the call, it is his BEST FRIEND (who is male).....yet he will take the call of other people who arent even as close.........what gives??? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Shaving three time a day is extreme and borders OCD. However these changes may also indicate, that either he has another person on the side, or he is thinking about it or possibly trying to impress another. The fact that hes not as into you as you would like, him being busy, or short on the phone with you, or not even answering, plus the apperence changes all are red flags that something is up. I'm not saying for sure that he has someone else, but I am saying its possible and that if he doesn't already, then it seems something is in the works or he is trying real hard to impress another. Thats not good. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 It sounds like living with him is miserable. Why do you want to continue? Link to post Share on other sites
Author random tears Posted November 30, 2005 Author Share Posted November 30, 2005 The shaving thing IS total OCD......I have confronted him on it, like why the sudden change.....normally he wouldnt even have 2 minutes to spare in the morning because he was going to be late, and now he is risking being late because of the shaving and tucking in the shirt and putting on a belt even though the waist line is so tight he could pop out at any minute...ladies you know, the little clues......not sure if it is heading for disaster or not.....as far as the shaving...he says that it is a rule in his company (which is true, i used to work with him) but he went a day or two before shaving in the past,.... I think it is an excuse to put on cologne every morning because why would a maintence person need to put cologne on??? so now its "Its aftershave!! I need to put it on every time i shave"....which just happens to be in the morning before work, and not at night, when you are with me..... he is cold and distant...and the only time he seems loving is in the morning, for about 2 minutes before he runs out the door,because his time he used to spend with me is now spent with the mirror...... at night, he doesnt even touch me, is either on the phone or watching tv, and god help me if i interrupt either......something else about him greatly disturbs me, but I posted it in the general discussion topic..... Link to post Share on other sites
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