mishiko79 Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Hi I am 26 and my bf is 29. We have been together 6 years and have lived together most of that time. We are thinking about buying a house together. However, my boyfriend has said a few times over the years that he never wants to have kids. Now i have always said that one day I will want to have kids...not yet, maybe 5-10yrs down the track. Lately it has become a real issue because I don't think we should commit to buying house together unless its resolved. So I brought it up and he said he doesn't want kids now and is not sure about the future...he said he doesn't know how he'll feel about it in 5 years time and it's impossible for him to know. It's caused alot of tension and obviously he has been thinking about it because he said that he doesn't have many good role models right now for him to look at- there is one couple at his work who are currently having a baby... and he said that it's not something he doesn't want. He can see himself doing that but wants to be financially ready and have a good foundation. There has been alot of pressure from his work mates about getting married and having kids lately, which i wasn't aware of when i brought up the subject. What do i make of this? I asked him about our relationship and he said that he sees it as a serious relationship which will lead to marriage in the future if we're both still happy. It would be nice to have a definite answer but I guess I can't force him into making a decision. Any advice or suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
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