meltwithme Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Well I asked a girl for her number the other day, she wasn't interested and played the usual games like 'give me yours' etc etc, I was persistent and finally just said "Look it's ok to just tell me no, either write your number down or simply say no." She just couldn't say it and kept BSing me so I walked away without saying anything else. So I talked to my buddies and they also never got a straight up "no" when asking for a number. So my question ladies, why is it so hard to say no? I can tell you a guy with any esteem will respect you more if you simply say no, that your not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
uRabbit Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Yes, they certainly have problems. Some guy kissed my girlfriend and she let him believe they were goin out. She never did anything with him, but still. That's a little more of a problem than just sayin no, but it's generally the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Women think they are sparing your feelings by not being direct. They are also cowards because you are face to face. The more women you ask the better you will be at discovering if they are into you or just blowing you off ( nicely). Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Wimmen who can't say no? A dream come true Where are all these wimmen at?? Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 A couple of reasons: First, some women are afraid saying no will create an angry guy wanting to retaliate. I think it is more instictive on their part to never create direct conflict. Second, some women do not like to definitively stop you in your tracks. They like to see how long you wil beat your head against a wall pursuing them. In short, it is an ego thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 I can't speak for all women, but I would really rather take the guy's number and call. Even if I was interested. If I weren't interested, I would say I was not available. Simple as that. Yes, in the past I have taken the number just so the guy would get lost, but that was immature of me. Again, can't speak for other women, but with growing life experience, there is also a growing numbers of weirdos, pervs and stalkers you meet. That is why I'd rather take the number and call from work to set up the first meeting. Just to make sure. I know you can't get to know the guy on one date, but at least you could be able to say that he is not a complete psycho who will end-up calling you 30 times a day. Another one...I told guy a 'no' (a straight-up 'no' as in I AM NOT INTERESTED 'no'), and he keeps coming to work and calling me several times a day. The fact that I don't talk to him or return his calls just makes him more persistant. So there. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 When I met my husband I wasn't interested in dating (was recently separated) so I told him no. But he gave me his card anyway "in case I changed my mind." I did change my mind a week later and called him. So sometimes it's just that the person isn't ready to date for whatever reason. It may not be personal at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 COCO! HI:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 COCO! HI:laugh: SLOPPY! Where you been? Are you ok? Don't want to take over this post but I've wondered about you! Link to post Share on other sites
Sloppy Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Coco, I pm'ed you. Sorry guys for invading your thread. Link to post Share on other sites
NYCmitch25 Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Well I asked a girl for her number the other day, she wasn't interested and played the usual games like 'give me yours' etc etc, I was persistent and finally just said "Look it's ok to just tell me no, either write your number down or simply say no." She just couldn't say it and kept BSing me so I walked away without saying anything else. So I talked to my buddies and they also never got a straight up "no" when asking for a number. So my question ladies, why is it so hard to say no? I can tell you a guy with any esteem will respect you more if you simply say no, that your not interested. Why do you need a solid no, can't you feel it out? Or do you have to drone on like some kind of idiot? Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Wimmen who can't say no? A dream come true Where are all these wimmen at?? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 NO NONONONONONONONONONONO ..Okay, Im just practicing.I know Ive pulled the "why dont you give me your # thing before" but it was when I was pretty young.Now Im taken so I just say no. So its prolly the girls your trying to meet. Link to post Share on other sites
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