love & blackmail

[tod]

I’m a 19 year old male currently sharing an apartment with a 23 year old girl who is not my girlfriend, but we are simply sharing the apartment to cut down on expenses. I do however have a girlfriend who I’m crazy about. In fact she is the first and only girlfriend I’ve had. My roommate, who is a photographer, kept pressuring me to pose nude for her. One night I gave in to her constant pressure and let her take just one picture of me. After that, she threatened to show the picture to my girlfriend unless I pose for her again. I reluctantly agreed because I didn’t want to risk loosing my girlfriend. My roommate is now always demanding I pose nude for her and as if that’s not bad enough, she started bringing other girls over to watch. It was initially very humiliating standing naked in front of girls as they giggled and gawk at me, but now I’m getting kind of used to it. All her friends must have seen me naked by now. Now my roommate now tells me I should be honest with my girlfriend and that I have nothing to be ashamed of. She said that there’s nothing dirty about what happened and that it was just some innocent fun. She said my girlfriend shouldn’t mind unless she’s selfish or overly possessive. I don’t know. I’m still concerned that if I tell her, I may loose her. She means so much to me.

[Ryan]

I’m a 19 year old male currently sharing

an apartment with a 23 year old girl who is not my girlfriend, but we are simply sharing the apartment to cut down on expenses. I do however have a girlfriend who I’m crazy about. In fact she is the first and only girlfriend I’ve had. My roommate, who is a photographer, kept pressuring me to pose nude for her. One night I gave in to her constant pressure and let her take just one picture of me. After that, she threatened to show the picture to my girlfriend unless I pose for her again. I reluctantly agreed because I didn’t want to risk loosing my girlfriend. My roommate is now always demanding I pose nude for her and as if that’s not bad enough, she started bringing other girls over to watch. It was initially very humiliating standing naked in front of girls as they giggled and gawk at me, but now I’m getting kind of used to it. All her friends must have seen me naked by now. Now my roommate now tells me I should be honest with my girlfriend and that I have nothing to be ashamed of. She said that there’s nothing dirty about what happened and that it was just some innocent fun. She said my girlfriend shouldn’t mind unless she’s selfish or overly possessive. I don’t know. I’m still concerned that if I tell her, I may loose her. She means so much to me.

You didn't do anything with these women, correct? Then tell your girlfriend what happened! Explain that you did one nude photo under the pretense that it was supposed to be strictly professional and then your roommate behaved improperly and you felt stuck. I'd seriously consider getting another roommate though...especially after your girlfriend kicks her ass.

[Tod]

You didn't do anything with these women, correct? Then tell your girlfriend what happened! Explain that you did one nude photo under the pretense that it was supposed to be strictly professional and then your roommate behaved improperly and you felt stuck. I'd seriously consider getting another roommate though...especially after your girlfriend kicks her ass.

I've never touched any of the girls, however, a couple of times I was fondled by my roommate and her friends. But when they would, I would try to push their hands away to make them stop.

 

I'm thinking of telling my girlfriend the story, but I don't know how girls feel about stuff like this.

 

I'd like a girls perspective.

[Ryan]

I've never touched any of the girls, however,

a couple of times I was fondled by my roommate and her friends. But when they would, I would try to push their hands away to make them stop.

 

I'm thinking of telling my girlfriend the story, but I don't know how girls feel about stuff like this. I'd like a girls perspective.

Your story is wearing thin....first it was, "but nothing happened, nothing at all!" Now you say, "well, they touched me but I tried to make them stop." Are you trying to tell me that you, a grown man, were unable to prevent people from coming in contact with you? It sounds very suspect....I'm starting to believe that there's less innocence to this story than you would like us to think. I can't give concrete advice unless you are going to be honest about the situation.

[Meta]

Well, it seems clear that these older girls thought that you were cute and wanted to tease you. However, you must be honest and tell your girlfriend that you feel uncomfortable about what happened and that you don't want to hide it from her because you just don't feel it's right. I don't see why your girlfriend would hold it against you...unless she's an insecure person who would freak out. If she is confident about the relationship, she might still get upset for a while, but she'll come to understanding you.

 

You must tell her. But be tactful in the way you approach her. Tell her exactly what you have posted on this message board...that you have been having some uncomfortable experiences with your roommate and you didn't know whether to tell your girlfriend about it or not because you didn't think it was a big deal in the beginning...but now you're freaking out because she's been calling her friends over to watch and they tease you so you don't know what to do. She'll probably tell you to stand up for yourself and move out. If she freaks out beyond control, then she could be a person with issues so you might need to reconsider the relationship. Fearing to be honest is the worst thing that happens in a relationship. If she doesn't appreciate your honesty, then move on.

[Crystal Schultz]

I’m a 19 year old male currently sharing an apartment with a 23 year old girl who is not my girlfriend, but we are simply sharing the apartment to cut down on expenses. I do however have a girlfriend who I’m crazy about. In fact she is the first and only girlfriend I’ve had. My roommate, who is a photographer, kept pressuring me to pose nude for her. One night I gave in to her constant pressure and let her take just one picture of me. After that, she threatened to show the picture to my girlfriend unless I pose for her again. I reluctantly agreed because I didn’t want to risk loosing my girlfriend. My roommate is now always demanding I pose nude for her and as if that’s not bad enough, she started bringing other girls over to watch. It was initially very humiliating standing naked in front of girls as they giggled and gawk at me, but now I’m getting kind of used to it. All her friends must have seen me naked by now. Now my roommate now tells me I should be honest with my girlfriend and that I have nothing to be ashamed of. She said that there’s nothing dirty about what happened and that it was just some innocent fun. She said my girlfriend shouldn’t mind unless she’s selfish or overly possessive. I don’t know. I’m still concerned that if I tell her, I may loose her. She means so much to me. Sorry but this seems to unreal for me.Girls laughing and

 

gawking at me.Give me a break.