jukowera Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Hey guys, what does an early 20's guy need to think about if he decides a girl is right for him? My ex BF mentioned similar views and the fact that the person would love him for himself - I do all these things and I wonder what else he needs to consider (hopefully see in me) before he makes a proposal. I feel we are soul mates and he cares for me more than any materialistic thing. We are both tempted for 'naughtiness' like we did before but because we are just 'bloody good friends' we won't hurt the other with such teasing. He sounds into me, but I want to have an idea of what he's thinking without scaring him by asking. I've asked a little bit, but I feel wrong about going on and on about it. I know it's largely private, but it's hurting me so much that I struggle with it. He knows ho interested in him I am for life, but I odn't know what he's thinking... Any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 20 is too young to be thinking lifetimes. You don't know what you don't know and what you don't want. Google books on 'questions before marriage' and buy a couple of them. You should have discussed most if not all of the topics suggested in the books before you marry. There's much more to marriage than being 'soul mates', having similar views, and loving someone for himself (which you may think you do but may not actually do). Link to post Share on other sites
Author jukowera Posted December 2, 2005 Author Share Posted December 2, 2005 So what's that feeling about it 'feeling right'? Does instinct count for anything? I know there is heaps more, but we've been through heaps of huge issues, seen how NOT to act (b/c would break us up), determination for each other, providing strength for each other, beloved by each other's families... What is he tihnking about? Were any of you readers 20-something once? Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 So what's that feeling about it 'feeling right'? Does instinct count for anything? Nope. Tons of people break up every day who for some period of their time together, felt 'right'. Do you think that all of the marriages which have ended in divorce were begun for reasons other than that people thought it was 'right'? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jukowera Posted December 2, 2005 Author Share Posted December 2, 2005 We've had nigh 3 years and have grown up together whilst keeping our love for eachother just as deep (if not more). There's no situation we can't handle and remain friends, and when we were together the same applied. I'm not just jumping into this because "This feels nice" but because I believe I have enough evidence for it. I believe he feels the same way, which is why I asked this question. I don't just do things, especially when they involve another person I love. Not getting angry, just saying... Link to post Share on other sites
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