a308094 Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Ill try to keep this short. I've been dating and living with my girlfriend for about the past 6 months....and we've never had a fight or anything until the past 2 weeks or so. First things I started to notice was when we went out on saturdays with our usaul group of people she started talking to me and dancing with me less and less....granted i understand she has girlfriends and wants to dance with the girls but im talkin decently extreme of me being ignored..than she started going out again with her girlfriends without me getting the invite kinda like a girls night out which i understand everyone kind of needs alone time and time to spend with her friends. Than she kinda stopped calling me as much from work like she used to just to say and hi and stopped replying to my text messages saying she never has time... Instead of caring for my feeling when i try to talk to her she doesnt take much time to understand them and gets angry and impatient. Shes a good girl and sais she loves me very much but im just not sure how to take this sometimes..it seems like shes distancing herself from me. She might be stressed between work and college to because its hard to do both. I dont know what im getting at...ill do anything to make things work out with me and her..I love her more than anything and i would give her the world if I could. I pretty much do anything she asks and the only thing i really expect in return is just a few nice words sometimes expressing her feelings for me like i do for her. I dont know if were just leaving that romance stage and getting to the normal relationship part or what...but im often confused on how she feels and if i still make her happy. Shes a good person but i just think sometimes she looks past things before she realizes what shes actually doing... I guess the smart thing to do would be to give her some space and time to let her come to me...so ive been trying but im just not sure how effective i am...I love her more than i ever thought possible maybe she just needs time to get where im at.... Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 You moved in together right away? Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 I think most problems are due to lack of communication. I suggest that you sit down with her and ask her. Tell her how you feel. Don't say, "You always do ____," but rather say, "When you ____, I feel ____." Link to post Share on other sites
NYCmitch25 Posted December 3, 2005 Share Posted December 3, 2005 I don't think anyone can help you here. I'd like to just add that relationships do many times become more "relaxed" as that romance phase wears off. However, I don't know you guys so it could be just that or she is phasing you out ot move on. Either way, I would lay back and try to figure things out instead of being so needy and bringing up every little insecurity you have. Link to post Share on other sites
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