He contacts after two months?

[aluvsupreme]

Hi All,

 

Newbie here needs sound advice ASAP!!!

 

BF and I met at church and were very close friends before we start dating almost a year ago. I have a medical condition that he’s aware of that often triggers un-expectantly. When this occurs, I usually want to be left alone. During my last episode, BF couldn’t handle it and insisted that we were done and that he didn’t want to be bothered with me if we couldn’t go through this together.

 

He was so angry that I decided to give him space for a few days. When I tried calling a few days later, he was still adamant about things being over between us. He insisted that we’re both grown adults and that we couldn’t proceed if both of us can’t be there for each other in time of need. And I brought up an issue of him always running to his mother and friends whenever he was in need. Devastated, I left him alone and have had NC for the past two months. Unfortunately, I do see him three times a week at church, which makes the healing process extremely hard to get through.

 

Out of the blue, I received an email from him yesterday asking how my Thanksgiving went, about my parents and so on. We replied with brief answers back and forth, but in his last email he stated, “You can still pick up the phone and say hello. I’ll be sure to do the same. I’m not your enemy. Take care and I’ll talk with you later”.

 

After two months of us passing by in church without NC, this is truly bothering me! Yes, I still have strong feelings for him, but I'm really confused. Why now? Why should I call him, he’s the one that broke up with me? I’ve read plenty of post here that have stated if a guy really wants you back that he’ll make the effort no matter what the circumstance.

 

Need sound advice ASAP!!! What do you make of this? I don't have a clue what to say to him if he were to approach me at church or call me. I don’t want to get my hopes up high only to have him want to be friends, or even worse, him checking up on me just to see if I'm doing okay physically.

 

Any advice will do!

 

Thanks!

[Kengne]

Hi All,

 

Newbie here needs sound advice ASAP!!!

 

BF and I met at church and were very close friends before we start dating almost a year ago. I have a medical condition that he’s aware of that often triggers un-expectantly. When this occurs, I usually want to be left alone. During my last episode, BF couldn’t handle it and insisted that we were done and that he didn’t want to be bothered with me if we couldn’t go through this together.

 

He was so angry that I decided to give him space for a few days. When I tried calling a few days later, he was still adamant about things being over between us. He insisted that we’re both grown adults and that we couldn’t proceed if both of us can’t be there for each other in time of need. And I brought up an issue of him always running to his mother and friends whenever he was in need. Devastated, I left him alone and have had NC for the past two months. Unfortunately, I do see him three times a week at church, which makes the healing process extremely hard to get through.

 

Out of the blue, I received an email from him yesterday asking how my Thanksgiving went, about my parents and so on. We replied with brief answers back and forth, but in his last email he stated, “You can still pick up the phone and say hello. I’ll be sure to do the same. I’m not your enemy. Take care and I’ll talk with you later”.

 

After two months of us passing by in church without NC, this is truly bothering me! Yes, I still have strong feelings for him, but I'm really confused. Why now? Why should I call him, he’s the one that broke up with me? I’ve read plenty of post here that have stated if a guy really wants you back that he’ll make the effort no matter what the circumstance.

 

Need sound advice ASAP!!! What do you make of this? I don't have a clue what to say to him if he were to approach me at church or call me. I don’t want to get my hopes up high only to have him want to be friends, or even worse, him checking up on me just to see if I'm doing okay physically.

 

Any advice will do!

 

Thanks!

 

What do i make of it? nothing. He made a friednly overture - that's it. please do not mistake this for an attempt to reconcile, because you will surely be disappointed. it doesn't seem to me like you are prepared to be 'just friends' so at this point your best bet is to continue with NC. do not contact him. And if he contacts you - ignore him.

 

K.

[travellingman]

He lost interest because of a medical condition?

 

I knew a girl who had an embarrasing stomach thing, but her bf was caring and nice about it. Why are you even worried if he calls back? Find someone better.

[westernxer]

Nothing remotely romantic in his correspondence with you.

 

Be strong.