runner22 Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 She doesn't want to try very hard in school, she occasionally smokes cigarettes, is boy crazy (usually older guys), and lately has become a compulsive liar. She's super sweet and overall naive about the real dangers she's experimenting with. She thinks everything she does is cool. I want to help but don't know how to. The doc told her she's depressed but I don't buy it, I think she may be a bit spoiled. Help anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 She might just be going through a phase. Have you tried getting her to do some non-troublesome activities with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author runner22 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Share Posted December 2, 2005 I'm 22yrs old and yes, I have tried to hang out with her but she always ends up talking about older guys that are in bands, who she considers her friends. They are not good influence, most of them do drugs and she thinks it's okay. I don't want to push her away so I don't say much. I try to be her friend more than anything but that means I can't really lecture her. I tried to get her involved into working out with me but she won't. I said I'd take an art class with her (since she likes art) but she just doesn't seem interested. I am very worried. I don't want her to end up in a bad situation in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted December 2, 2005 Share Posted December 2, 2005 Each person has things they value, whether it be financial or emotional or otherwise. You briefly alluded to her interest in art. Maybe an art class isn't up her alley - at that age, she's probably tired of classes and schooling, however informal (I know I was at that age) - but you may try taking her to a gallery. Or, get her an easel and some supplies. The drug thing is a whole different issue, and demands an entirely different approach. But before we go down that road, what about your parents? How is the well-being of your sister (aside from the natural protective element to a younger sibling) your responsibility? Link to post Share on other sites
Author runner22 Posted December 2, 2005 Author Share Posted December 2, 2005 Thank you for your replies. My parents are so out of the loop, meaning that they believe the whole 'depression' thing (but she's only pretending to get things from them), so they spoil her a lot. I have talked to my parents about her general behaviour and they agree with me at the moment we discuss it, but then go back to spoiling her. They don't know she smokes and that she talks to older guys. I don't want to lose my sister's trust so that's why I don't tell them. Also, it would break my parents' hearts if they knew their little girl was doing such things and ultimately, it would not solve anything since they would just yell at her endlessly. Both my parents have a heart condition and I don't want to upset them and make them more ill. I need to help her. Link to post Share on other sites
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