lifeboy Posted December 5, 2005 Share Posted December 5, 2005 hey all, i need some insight from anyone who can "read" girls. basically i am trying to determine whether or not i have a "chance" or should proceed with this girl (ali). so there's this coffee shop i frequent; one of the girls that works there (ali) i have had a crush on for like six months...nothing deep just always thought she was really cute and seems down to earth; but never really talked to her. i always have said hello to this other girl (nikki) that works there (she is good friends with ali) and make small talk with her...but never with ali (i guess i've been too shy). anyway last week i came in late at night and nikki's like "hey how have you been" im like "not bad just got off from work; long day" ...ali buts in "oh where do you work?" so i have like minimal small talk with her, but head out for the night later in the week (friday night) im in there for a few hours just hanging out and listening to music and relaxing. ali and nikki are working that night. nikki's like "hey are you going to the iron and wine (a band) concert tomorrow night? i'm not , but this girl (referrring to ali) is" im like "oh that's cool; i might but not really sure". needless to say i didnt go. but anyway, at one point nikki and i were talking music a bit and she wanted to show me some band. so anyway im sitting htere with my headphones on reading a magazine and ali comes up and taps me on the arm and is like "hey nikki wants you to know that she put on whatever the band is". so with that i think to myself, why isnt it that nikki comes and tells me this....are they like trying to come up with ways to get me and ali to intereact? i dontknow maybe im speculating (hopefully) too much; thorughout the night ali and i made some eye contact....she has never called me by name, but always hears nikki refer to me as "jim". at the end of night; i just head out and am like "have a good night ali" and walk out in a confident manner, anyway, the next night, ali was at the concert but nikki ws working...nikki's like "you didnt go to the concert?" im like "no" that was that. then today i go back in and ali is working and when i come in she addresses me by name: "hey jim, did you go to the iron and wine concert last night?" i mean she was there and didnt see me...it's not like a HUGE concert venue...and im sure her and nikki talked (or maybe not lol)! anyway she and i talked about the show fo ra short bit and i was like "are any other good concerts rolling through town>" and she just said "oh one but you prob wont like it - tori amos" im lke ok whatever lol. bottom line, i kept my interaction with her today to a minimal b.c she is workign and her boss is there; she has to tend to the customers. i dont know; i just took it as a good sign that she addressed me by name and gets the sense that i am very much into music (it's my passion), because she too loves music. i just need to know if it's worth proceeding and HOW???? i dont want to be "that guy" that like hits on a girl while she works. any advice? sorry if this is a lame post that really is just a friendly interaction and nothing more! Link to post Share on other sites
superman222 Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 Hard to say but I think you have very little to go on besides the fact that she remembers your name and vice versa. I think most people are pretty reserved so if you want things to happen, you need to be more forward. Have some questions prepared in your head and just go for it. Treat it like practice even, consider that it could be good as an experience you can learn from. Link to post Share on other sites
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