battleworn Posted December 5, 2005 Share Posted December 5, 2005 So I've just started seeing someone. We slept together this weekend, but even though we'd been teasing each other for two weeks, I just could not orgasm during intercourse. Why? Well I'm on antidepressants which really make it difficult. Constant wood, but no joy. I made sure she was happy by going down and using my hands as well. I can work on this (change dosage etc) and probably make it work, but in the meantime this question: Gals, if I guy told you he was orgasming without ejaculating would you believe him? It's physically possible, just not common. Furthermore, if you're getting pleased anyway, how much would it matter? Link to post Share on other sites
maggiemay Posted December 5, 2005 Share Posted December 5, 2005 It's not uncommon when starting a new realtionship to have sexual issues. Communications is very important be honest with her and work on it together. As for the faking it I would be upset, Yes I love the fact that my BF takes the time to make sure I'm satisfied but I also love knowing he's happy too. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 5, 2005 Share Posted December 5, 2005 Well I'm on antidepressants which really make it difficult. Does she know this? Furthermore, if you're getting pleased anyway, how much would it matter? It wouldn't. It doesn't. My guy is on Zoloft and I understand that stuff really takes a toll on the orgasm. He is no less of a lover, though. I see it as a matter of enjoying the journey and not sweating the destination. Link to post Share on other sites
Author battleworn Posted December 6, 2005 Author Share Posted December 6, 2005 Well back from another session. Yes she does know now that I'm on Celexxa. She was too previously. Small world huh. I can ejaculate it just takes a long time and more friction than a vagina can usually provide. We tried oral and manual stimulation today and it worked fine. We'll keep trying with penetration. Wow, I lucked out with this girl. She did too, cause I make darn sure she gets what she needs. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 Jesus... don't know why I didn't think of that before! I've been on Cipralex for the last four months, and a few weeks ago I started seeing somebody new. She and I have had sex three times, and reaching orgasm has been a bit of work for me. No problem with interest or arousal... just bringing matters to their conclusion. MD told me I should stay on the meds till the spring... hopefully this won't be a continuous problem. BTW, I haven't told this woman that I'm on a med. Is it necessary to tell? What do people think? Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 can ejaculate it just takes a long time and more friction than a vagina can usually provide. I am at the other end of the spectrum if I get real turned on I am a "two pump chump" but I can easily go again a few minutes later and last a lot longer the second and third time.I also have faked it to make it look like I lasted a lot longer than I did because I don't really lose my erection once I orgasm so I just keep going until she is satisfied then"coincedentally" I will make it look like I just came its a good premature ejaculation trick. Link to post Share on other sites
RottenGazebo Posted December 10, 2005 Share Posted December 10, 2005 You can just pee in small increments. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted December 10, 2005 Share Posted December 10, 2005 Gals, if I guy told you he was orgasming without ejaculating would you believe him? It's physically possible, just not common. Furthermore, if you're getting pleased anyway, how much would it matter? Whow, I never thought it was possible. Faking it won't work, at least it wouldn't with me, because I can totally feel when he's ejaculating. I would be a little upset, I think. Probably worried that part of it would be because he's not attracted to me or something. Although in your case, it's obviously your medication's fault. Link to post Share on other sites
RottenGazebo Posted December 11, 2005 Share Posted December 11, 2005 You can just pee in small increments. Try it. You'll like it. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperMonk Posted December 11, 2005 Share Posted December 11, 2005 What's with people on medications getting relationships? Misery loves company I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
manders_01 Posted December 16, 2005 Share Posted December 16, 2005 if I guy told you he was orgasming without ejaculating would you believe him? I honestly wouldn't care. As long as you enjoyed yourself, you're good to go. Furthermore, if you're getting pleased anyway, how much would it matter? Wouldn't care in the least. BUT, you might let your partner know that you enjoyed the experience even if you didn't orgasm. I know in your partner's situation, I would be worried that it had become all about me. Link to post Share on other sites
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