Scotch Posted July 19, 2001 Share Posted July 19, 2001 Guy at work. Mainly email correspondence. Originally initiated by me but he emailed me a lot too Went out to lunch 3-4 times After first lunch- he said maybe you will go to a movie with me sometime Never asked but always talked via email and when we saw eachother called once but i wasnt there and didnt leave message said he needs to hurry up and get married never paid for lunch asked what i was doing fourth of july said he would call i called him from 411 he was rude i thought he apologized and said he didnt mean to be asked me out to lunch as a joke once- or really it wasnt a real invite i was annoyed asked meout again and i said i was busy- which i really was asked details about my ex then said too hard to date people from work went into marriage emailed me more i left it short and sweet answers- because if we are just friends we do not need to email each other all day every day said he thought i was nice and good looking and that god was laughing at him and teasing him by letting him know me now it is awkard- i was nice- i needed to save face kind of but it is awkward and i do not understand what he is feeling or thinkinh and have no right to ask i feel like it is either an excuse- to not date at work or he is interested but the work thing is holding him back but when we look at each other there is something there i think and he was affectionate- just in a nice way, not overly, but sweetly- we are at work and all what to do? space? does it sound like he is playing games or not? good guy or bad guy. there is more examples of his flirting but i will leave them out Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 19, 2001 Share Posted July 19, 2001 I don't think it's cool to date people from work either. If you break up, it's very awkward. Rumors spread around. This guy obviously is flirtatious. Probably married or has a girlfriend. Something's going on because why would he take the time For Email, other exchanges and never ask you out. There's a serious problem here. Maybe he's gay and trying to convert. Maybe he's shy. None of this is his fault. It's very much your fault. Nobody's got a gun to your head in this thing. Go find a guy, either at work or elsewhere... Who will respond to you in a more conventional way. And want to be with you and do things with you. This guy is really weird and you can tell him I said so. Continue being nice to him but no too nice. You don't need to avoid him...he's not a Congressman. You don't work in a Congressional office, I hope!!! Only one email a week and reduce frequency from there. Understand the two of you are buddies only. No more lunches until you can accept that he's ONLY a buddy... ...and a tease at that. Don't get hurt in this thing because he is coming from nowhere. This whole thing is going nowhere and will go nowhere. I don't think he's playing games, just has problems. You don't have problems. Your problems are solved as of now. You are writing him off as a possibility. You are free, you are emancipated...a breath of fresh air. New and great things will come into your life. You don't have this to worry about any more. So just don't care about the emails and the flirtations. Just laugh and go about your business. You are a nice lady...never waste your time on a dud. Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted July 20, 2001 Share Posted July 20, 2001 I should've known to expect a reply like that from you Very, very funny! Link to post Share on other sites
Marzipan75 Posted July 26, 2001 Share Posted July 26, 2001 Try to avoid. It doesn't sound like a healthy situation and it's only prolonged if you let yourselves keep going back and fourth like this. Don't let him confuse you further, avoid him. Hope that helps. Sorry. Guy at work. Mainly email correspondence. Originally initiated by me but he emailed me a lot too Went out to lunch 3-4 times After first lunch- he said maybe you will go to a movie with me sometime Never asked but always talked via email and when we saw eachother called once but i wasnt there and didnt leave message said he needs to hurry up and get married never paid for lunch asked what i was doing fourth of july said he would call i called him from 411 he was rude i thought he apologized and said he didnt mean to be asked me out to lunch as a joke once- or really it wasnt a real invite i was annoyed asked meout again and i said i was busy- which i really was asked details about my ex then said too hard to date people from work went into marriage emailed me more i left it short and sweet answers- because if we are just friends we do not need to email each other all day every day said he thought i was nice and good looking and that god was laughing at him and teasing him by letting him know me now it is awkard- i was nice- i needed to save face kind of but it is awkward and i do not understand what he is feeling or thinkinh and have no right to ask i feel like it is either an excuse- to not date at work or he is interested but the work thing is holding him back but when we look at each other there is something there i think and he was affectionate- just in a nice way, not overly, but sweetly- we are at work and all what to do? space? does it sound like he is playing games or not? good guy or bad guy. there is more examples of his flirting but i will leave them out Link to post Share on other sites
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