suesue Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 I was married for three years after a six year relationship. We really loved each other. We were VERY young when we got married and inmatured and let people get in our lives and we got separated and he got another woman pregnant during that time and divorced me and married her. He regreted it and divorced her. I moved to another country and I am happily married now. My ex contacted me by e-mail and I asked my current husband if I should reply and he thought it was ok, that we probably needed some closure and healing since the way the break up happened. So I did, and now we are talking almost everyday online and he says that I'm the woman of her life and bla bla and because I'm a romantic and love drama sometimes I get confused and think that maybe we are meant to be with each other again. I know it's very stupid of me but I need some help to get my mind together. I don't want to talk about it with anyone that knows me. Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 Do you really need the closure? If not, move on. You are happily married. Your husband may have some insight due to the fact he ok'd you emailing him for closure (he may see that you need it). The past is in the past and that is why it is there. What you should also ask yourself: Why are you talking to him everyday? Closure takes one conversation. By talking to him everyday you are opening the infidelity door wider and wider when at one point you will simply walk through. Cut it off. Move on. Enjoy your happy life with your understanding husband. It is what you deserve. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
suesue Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 You are So right. Thank you. The e-mails need to stop now. I'm praying for strength, it's weird how my mind plays tricks on me. Thank you for your help. Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 This isn't closing anything. It's opening something back up. Quit while you're still ahead. This could make for a very ugly argument if your husband finds out. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 ^^^^^ what he said and....... it would seem that you have started an emotional affair with your ex? Is talking to a man that cheated ect worth risking your current marriage over him? Where is respect and consideration......? a4a Link to post Share on other sites
suesue Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 I know, it's true. I'm not writing anymore. I'll close that doo. Thank you so much, I really need to hear that over and over. I can't believe I can be that stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
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