Natalie05 Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 Have any of you been going on 5 months or more of NC after a breakup? Reason I'm asking is - I'm at a better place, I've gotten over him about 90% but the last 10% still keeps lingering on. I used to obsess over him but now I think of him maybe once a day (not all day, etc). It's getting easier but I still have moments where I miss him and still feel love for him - then I think about sending a xmas card, etc., but won't. I've come to far to contact him - I need to keep putting closure to it. It's pretty easy now but I wanted to hear from others who have been broken up as long as I have - I want to know how any of you are coping and if I should totally be over him now or if my lingering feelings are normal. I'm 40-something so rushing out and dating isn't as appealing to me as it was when I was 20-something. I'm kinda enjoying not being in an emotionally draining relationship now - he was a control freak and I've got major freedom. I don't miss a relationship with him - it's more like I'm missing sex and a warm male body.........so I'm doing my own thing until a decent guy comes along. I'm in no rush. But I still miss him..........a little. But it's no where near as heartbreaking as it was the first 1-3 months! It does get easier. Link to post Share on other sites
In Sync Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 My stats don't quite equal 5 months: The guy I was involved with dumped me back in April, I breached NC (actually wasn't aware of even what that was until I logged onto LS) throughout the summer, last saw him in August and final contact was through e-mail over a month ago. But reading your post gave me hope, because I still have those moments and I always have to talk myself down from the ledge (not literally...but not to break NC. Not to e-mail) Sometimes I even laugh at myself because it happens in such a predictable pattern. I get the intense urge for five solid minutes. I even have a script in my head but then I act it out and it turns bad the conversation and I stop myself. Whew! I too am 40-ish. He was much younger but had a PD. I ignored it. AND definitely don't miss that side of him. But I'm missing the physical part alot. I am not one for clubbing and bars and therefore I'm not in that kind of social setting to meet men. And also I'm not into hooking up for the sake of satisfying and urge. But I am missing the companionship part. So it gets easier huh...? Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 I've been broken up 10 months now, 8 months NC and I am sooo over him. I miss having someone but I don't miss him. It only gets better from here. Now I'm too busy meeting the weirdest men and relaying my strange stories. 1984 Link to post Share on other sites
Apathygrip Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 21 getting over a 3 year for about 1.5-2 months...but I'm good, I still think of her but it's not wan't or sadness I feel....its hard to explain, I don't want to be with her and am not really attracted anymore...but there is that part of me that she still owns I guess....oh well, it keeps getting easier. Link to post Share on other sites
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