If she likes me, and how to tell her I feel the same

[Viper23]

I know this girl at school, I met her through a mutual friend. Well at the beginning it was just the occasional stares, I'd catch her staring at me, she'd catch me staring at her kind of stuff. And that kind of stuff went on for a little bit. Recently We had a school activity where only a couple of us participated, her and I being two of them. We sat closer than usual together, and during an educational movie, we leaned in closer and whispered to each other. That same day, I'd make little jokes about her, and she'd gently push me or something. It got to the point where a friend of mine even told her to stop flirting with me, and she didnt say anything really.

 

The next day was the same, but when we watched another educational movie she leaned in just about as close as she could get without actually touching me. After that, she got me a soda that I hadnt asked for or expected, and even offered me a treat that she had told my friend no to.

 

Today, at the beginning of the day when we went to seperate classes she surprised me with an unexpected hug, and later on, at the end of the day when we seperated for a different class she did the same thing, but this time a bit longer and tighter.

 

I'll admit that I'm too much a wimp to just go up to her and tell her I like her, so I figured I'd write her a note, but I've never really liked a girl enough to write her a note, so I was wondering it it was ok. Here is the one I wrote up-

 

Dear ______,

 

The last few weeks I've thought about you alot. The last few days I think I've thought about

you more. In fact, I wish that for ten minutes I could actually stop thinking about you. I can't. I've wanted to

talk to you about this, or write to you for a bit, but I couldn't until now, because I'm forcing myself to.

I like you, and I think you like me. If you don't, no big deal. You can even save both us the embarassment

and not even bringing this topic up. Then I'll know. However, if you do like me, tell me. In a note, or in a

conversation, I don't care. I just want to know. And then, we can work from there. Or, if you don't like

me, I'll just have to wait until you come around. I've got the time, don't worry.

 

-_______

 

Idk if I'm assuming too much, or revealling in the note that I assume she likes me, and thats where I was hoping you people could help me out.

 

Thanks.

[Dookie_Dont]

Sounds like shes into ya man. Go for it. I would just ask her straight up in conversation if I were you. Girls look for confidence ya know? Maybe pulling her aside one day might be best, hell you'll probably get a hug out it too.

[Yamaha]

Don't write that lame note. She will read that and you will be history. If you want the girl you are going to have to make a move, step up to the plate.

 

There is no other way to get there so take a deep breath and ask her out.

It's really not that hard and very rewarding if she says yes.

[blue16]

Don't write that lame note. She will read that and you will be history. If you want the girl you are going to have to make a move, step up to the plate.

 

Quoted for truth

[Viper23]

Ok, so this all went down recently. Here's what Happened:

 

She'd been passing out christmas cards all day, but only to teachers. In the morning she pulled out one that was folded close, with no name on the envelope, and told me to wait to open it. Well during the school's breakfast two guys were telling me to open it, and she told me to, so i did. Inside she wrote "Thank you for always being there." Then signed her name.

 

Later on the school was all heading to the front so we could go to a field trip(small school) and as I was heading down the stairs the girl was waiting for me. We sat on the bus together, talking, then we bolwed together at the bowling alley. She'd get a strike and hug me, or hold my hands for a second.

 

When we got back to the school we were told we could leave whenever we wanted, and the girl started walking to her bus stop about two blocks away. I walked with her, and asked her why she'd given me the card. "Because you're special." She said as she laughed. She wouldn't tell me anything else, so we kept walking.

 

Along the way I worked up the courage to ask her if she had gotten my note, because I hadn't gotten a response from her.

"What note?" she asked. I told her that I had slipped a note into her locker, but when she asked what was in the note, I told her the point of writing it was so it wouldnt be so akward to talk to her directly about it. She paused, then asked how old I was again. I told her. She told me then that her mother would forbid any relationship between us, if thats what the note said, because she is older than me. She then told me how hard relationshsips are, and told me that she didnt have time for one now.

 

She stopped and asked if she was hurting me, and I told her no. She hugged me, and I said "Still friends, right?" and she said "Of course, thats why I wrote you the card. I feel closer to you than anyone else here." Then she hugged me again.

 

The next day, which was the day before break began, she came to school and told me she came only because I had asked her to come to see the note. In the morning I looked in her locker with her, and saw that the note had landed on the top shelf. She's too short to see up there. She tucked the note in her pocket, and left.

 

Later, my friend who has a class with the girl told me he talked with her. And asked if I wrote her a note. I told him so, and he told me she had shown three girls the note.She refused him a look, but had shown these other girls.

 

Later I talked to her and asked if she had read the note. She told me only the first line, which I know is BS, but didnt mention what my friend had said(I promised him I wouldnt) but before we could talk more, her bus arrived and she had to run to make it.

 

I've talked to a friend of mine who can usually dechipher girls well, and even he is confused. I think her showing her friends the note was obviously a sign that it wasnt an immediate veto from her. I'm just confused, anyone got anything to say about it?

[Yamaha]

She told me then that her mother would forbid any relationship between us, if thats what the note said, because she is older than me. She then told me how hard relationships are, and told me that she didn't have time for one now.

 

How can you be confused? This says exactly what you want to know, you are in the friends zone. She showed her g/f's because she may have wanted to ask them what she should do about you ( how to let you down ).

Your options are to stay a friend and look for a g/f or back away and make her an acquaintance and look for a g/f.

[Lucasarts]

erm i would have never given her that note man, it was waayyy too corny and sounded desperate... i think that you should just try to salvage your friendship and leave it at that...if you really are her most special friend then you should stay that until something tragic/eventful happens to her where you can step in and make a move.

 

the position your in isnt a bad one, and having girls as just friends is always great.

[Mary3]

I was going to advise you not to send her the note but you did before I could reply.

 

I would save the Opening Your Heart Up part for much later.

 

Lots of people can really hurt you if you lay your heart out there too early.

 

Next time I recommend really getting to know someone and going out with them on some dates and then you can subtly show them you really like them. To tell someone as much as you did , well that leaves room for some heartache if its not reciprocated.

 

You are in the Friends Zone. I think you are stuck there because she does NOT want anything. Dont keep hanging around wishing for it later. When we put you in the FZ then that where you usually stay. Forever.

 

Look for a nice girl who feels the same