tanelorn Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 Sorry to blaspheme, but it seems that I may need divine intervention here! This is a long story, but I will try to summarise the best I can! There is this girl at work. She is beautiful and smart, and although she knows it, has a confidence problem. I started talking to her about 9 months ago, we were a bit flirty and I asked if she would like to do something sometime... this followed with me spiralling downwards in flame. Despite being somewhat crushed I soldiered on and continued to talk to her over the next few months and we became good friends, although it was obvious I still held high hopes. During the course of this many of my insecurities came into play and I, in hindsight foolishly, was very open with her about them which she was "glad you told me". Needless to say the exposure of these issues did nothing more than create a larger issue as she became very self conscious of them! Anyway I woke up to myself and decided this was bad for my health and I tried to move on by reducing my contact with her. This worked pretty well for me for a while, but somehow I now find myself back in a situation where we talk constantly and my crush has been renewed. When I read these threads about "signs" I find that she is sending me most of them! People at work talk and are always asking what is going on between us, and her response is always "we are just good friends". If I talk about other girls she gets jealous. If she is away for a day she'll ask if I missed her. What am I to do? Is there hope? Am I just being used as a confidence booster? HEEEEELP! Link to post Share on other sites
Devildog Posted December 6, 2005 Share Posted December 6, 2005 Am I just being used as a confidence booster? Short version, yes. Long version, Hell yes. She is enjoying your attention and affection without her giving anything in return. You are wound tightly around her little finger and she knows this. Start talking to some other women, and let her get jealous. If she doesn't want to date you then why let her have the emotional and psychological benefits of a relationship with you? Link to post Share on other sites
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