queenie01 Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Do you think you have a better chance of your ex coming back if they are living the single life and havent dated anyone since they broke up with you.... or a better chance if they are dating someone else?? Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 It honestly depends on the person, if they loved you alot...and still very much do dating right after a break up should make them miss you..... if they dated someone maybe 4 months after the break up your chances could be preetty slim Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 There's no generalized answer to that. It's entirely dependent on the person, the nature of the previous relationship, and the strength of the current (if applicable) relationship. For instance, if the ex isn't dating but enjoys the single life, then the chances of return are probably pretty slim. If they are constantly lonely, though, they may come back. If the ex is with someone and that relationship is growing, they probably won't be back. But if the new relationship is toxic, or turning sour, then they might. There are just too many variables to know one way or another. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted December 7, 2005 Author Share Posted December 7, 2005 Thanks for your replies...i guess both of you are right, it depends entirely on the situation. My ex broke up with me 7 months ago completely out of the blue. We had the best relationship, were best friends, never fought etc. In my mind i feel like he wanted to try living his life, he never really got to and he is younger than me so was envious of the life i lived. I guess if he was going to come back he probalby would have already but at the same time i think he knew all along that he could still have me if he wanted me. I remain in no contact with him but unfortunately we work for the same company so he does get to see me at least once a week. We dont even say hello tho. Every once in awhile i get an email from him checking up on me and to tell me im looking really good. Like an idiot i always respond and im thinking thats all he is looking for to satisfy his ego. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 and that is another variable-the time you guys have spent with out eachother...some ex's to come back but like what ^ he said....is so true! let this be the time where you dont take him back if he does come back...you need to move on and i personally dont think 7 months is the amount of time to get over someone... do things that make you feel better if they do im sorry Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Thanks for your replies...i guess both of you are right, it depends entirely on the situation. My ex broke up with me 7 months ago completely out of the blue. We had the best relationship, were best friends, never fought etc. In my mind i feel like he wanted to try living his life, he never really got to and he is younger than me so was envious of the life i lived. I guess if he was going to come back he probalby would have already but at the same time i think he knew all along that he could still have me if he wanted me. I remain in no contact with him but unfortunately we work for the same company so he does get to see me at least once a week. We dont even say hello tho. Every once in awhile i get an email from him checking up on me and to tell me im looking really good. Like an idiot i always respond and im thinking thats all he is looking for to satisfy his ego. We're in similar situations. My ex didn't want to be with me because she didn't want to be 'with someone ready for marriage when she she is just starting to live her life...' She wants to spread her wings and fly. To have her own place and to just be her. I understand that. She wants to "date" but not have any boyfriends. I can understand that too. In addition, I found her the job she has and it's with a client of ours. So I know where she works and the HR Manager is always telling me about how 'well' she is doing, etc. It makes it hard, but at least I don't have to see her every week. And she's in NC mode with me. She doesn't want to lead me on and she feels if she maintains contact that it will raise a hair of hope in me that we will get back together. I honestly can't be friends with her because when I look at her I see my future wife. I wish I could stop that, but that's how I see her. And it's that train of thought that is going to cause me to miss out on someone better for me that very well COULD be my wife. There's a few women at my gym that I like but have yet to approach. It just seems so tacky to chat it up with women at the gym when they are obviously just trying to work out. One in particular I have noticed checks me out a lot. Maybe I'll say something to her one of these days. Link to post Share on other sites
simon sez Posted December 7, 2005 Share Posted December 7, 2005 Do you think you have a better chance of your ex coming back if they are living the single life and havent dated anyone since they broke up with you.... or a better chance if they are dating someone else?? Actually you have the best chance when YOU are dating someone... That is what will bring him back. Unless you start dating other men, things are not going to change.... Link to post Share on other sites
Nikita20 Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 Simon: However, let's say you are in NC mode. How will they know you are dating someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted December 8, 2005 Author Share Posted December 8, 2005 Well what if you work together. We cross paths probably 1 to 2 times a week but never speak. I dont even make eye contact with him. Do you think its better that he sees me or would it be better if i was completely out of sight? I sort of tend to think its harder for a person to get over another person if they have to see them... especially since he is single?? What do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 Well what if you work together. We cross paths probably 1 to 2 times a week but never speak. I dont even make eye contact with him. Do you think its better that he sees me or would it be better if i was completely out of sight? I sort of tend to think its harder for a person to get over another person if they have to see them... especially since he is single?? What do you guys think? No, it's harder if you don't see them, then you start to wonder... I've been there before. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted December 8, 2005 Author Share Posted December 8, 2005 What about for the dumper? Is it harder for them to have to see the person they dumped or harder not knowing what we are up to? Link to post Share on other sites
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