Yamaha Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Guys, Have you had any experience in dating a stripper and how did that experience go? I have a stripper that wants to date me ( she asked me out ) and I am wondering if I should get involved with her? She's hard to say no to because she is hot and I really like her personality. What do you think?
Outcast Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 dqted a stripper I think you should consider this on a day when the Christmas Irish Coffees haven't already been drunk
whichwayisup Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 What were the circumstances of how you met? Just wondering... Go out with her once and see how it goes. DO NOT HAVE SEX or even fool around on the first date. Just get to know her, find out about her life away from stripping. I'm betting it will be a breath of fresh air for her.
Author Yamaha Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 Tried to change it Outcast but edit mode won't let me. I need to proof read better or don't give a ****.
loony Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 I think I told someone on this messageboard once to go for a porn star, so why not a stripper? Personally, I'd feel very reluctant to date people who are in such physically exposing jobs. I wouldn't mind being friends with them, but I don't think I would share the same kind of mentality with them to really feel a connection.
Author Yamaha Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 I know alot about her whichway. She owns her own home and raises cows on her land. She sure doesn't look like a farmer and she is a freak ( sexually ). We have had many conversations on the subject of sex and when we get together it will be a wild time, I'm sure. She has some issues with friends that are into drugs and things and I am guarded in that regard. I will go out with her and see what happens. I just wondered if anybody had any experiences dating a stripper? I guess I will find out for myself.
Tangerina Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 She is just a person, but what people do does define them in some ways and how you feel about them... being a stripper doesn't change who she is on the inside, but if you have a problem with the activity then I wouldn't get involved... if things got even remotely serious then it would just become a bigger problem... if you don't care about her stripping then you take away the one variable that you seem to think you might have a problem with and you are left with a hot girl with a nice personality.... go for it, I agree that you should take it slow and treat her like how a lady should be treated (I am gonna burn in feminist hell for that "lady" statement, oh well... hehe:p My ex BF wanted to be a stripper... for him it was an ego thing, he was a bit of an exhibitionist and wanted everyone to think that he was hot stuff and desire him... We were walking past this male strip club (Centerfolds in Seattle) and he was like "I kind of want to apply there" "As a stripper?" "Yeah" "hmmm, I think they kind of like more of the oiled up beefcake type rather than 19 year old ballet dancer, I think the 19 year old ballet dancer thing works better for lady strippers" (I shouldn't have said this, cuz I realized it hurt his feelings that I didn't think he looked like a stripper) "Why don't you think I could become a stripper?" "I don't think you couldn't become a stripper, I just didn't think you were really serious, to tell the truth I think it would be a bit of a turn off if you were making money off of sleaze and giving lap dances to other people/much older ladies" "I wouldn't have to give lapdances" "Uh huh, thats how you get the $ and I know that they do them at Centerfolds cuz I read an article about it" "Geez, why won't you let me be a stripper?!?!?!?" HAHA, it cracked me up how this conversation somehow resulted in him resenting me for not "letting" him be a stripper... haha, sorry for the tangent...
Fun2BMe Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 If it doesn't bother you for someone you date to be naked in front of drunk, perverted or just plain other men on a regular basis, then go for it. We all have different preferences we are comfortable with from our SO in a relationship. If you're not the jealous type and don't mind sharing her with others then it might work out for you. I have dated men who felt uncomfortable if my cleavage was exposed in public or if I was DRESSED too provocative. They would needless to say never date a stripper. But if it doesn't bother you to have other men look at her coochie and tities to get them off while you're not around and for her to give them lap dances, you might be an ideal match for her. I would imagine a man dating a stripper would not have a problem with the above and would have low expectations in a partner - she could dress as slutty as she wants and take her panties and bra off for any paying male whenever she wants to, the experience enhanced for them by her great personality.
Author Yamaha Posted December 7, 2005 Author Posted December 7, 2005 I am not the jealous type and I don't think I would have a problem with her dancing for other men. I also think she is leaning toward finding a different avenue for employment. She also is a heavy machine operator ( back hoes, etc. ) so this is not her only profession. I realize the decision is hers so I will go into the relationship thinking she will stay stripping in some fashion.
Tangerina Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Fun2BeMe... I am not saying this to pick on you personally but attitudes like go just as far toward's objectifying strippers as grody men staring at their boobies.... saying that a man who would date a stripper must have low expectation from a partner... I personally wouldn't be comfortable dating a stripper but that is a personal thing, not a universal morals thing... it is just a job, if people are willing to pay for it, and pay well, then people will do it... better than working 2 jobs for minimum wage and barely staying alive if you ask me!!!
Fun2BMe Posted December 7, 2005 Posted December 7, 2005 Tangerina, I think sex, nakedness, and exposure of genetelia should be exclusive to the people in the relationship. I think it is something special and understand others may not. That's just my opinion, I'm not trying to be judgemental, I said he should try it out if he's ok with it and expressed that I wouildn't be nor would I want to be with a man who wouldn't care if I was naked in front of other men even if brought me a lot of money. I would want him to want me only for himself and not shared around the townfolk. Call me old fashioned! I'm not shoving my morals down his throat, they're just different than his and I respect differences in opinion.
Gold Pile Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 Guys, Have you had any experience in dating a stripper and how did that experience go? I have a stripper that wants to date me ( she asked me out ) and I am wondering if I should get involved with her? She's hard to say no to because she is hot and I really like her personality. What do you think? There are a FEW "nice girls" stripping. Usually they don't last long. MOST strippers will have several guys that socialize with them. "just friends" she'll say. Very often her phone will be ringing the entire time you're together. Try to keep up with her and her friends! not easy for a working man. She'll be out all night till dawn. She makes plenty of money, so she doesn't need her friends for money, but often wants their drugs. And they're is often a crazy bouncer who thinks she is his property.
Cecelius Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 I thought it was common knowledge that strippers, porn actresses and girls with high body counts usually have major head issues. Date her but always use protection and don't get connected to her.
slubberdegullion Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 Dating people in the adult entertainment industry is strictly for professionals. Don't try this at home. There's an article about this exact same thing here. It's written in a humorous style, but the points made are absolutely true. I know a few young ladies that make their living raising the testosterone level of men (among other things!) and, without exception, they know exactly what they're doing. There's also a subculture of drug use that's rampant in the industry. but they f*** like wolverines!
Walk Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 A close family member of mine dated, and then married a stripper. When he met her she still stripped. He loved her because they shared a lot of the same common interests, and he's a little shallow and likes the fact that other men find her hot. She quit stripping about a year into the relationship. Went to college, got her AA degree. Got a good job, and left him. She cheated on him with his best friend. And then she found another guy (at work) who made lots of money and moved in with him about 5 months after leaving my relative. Last I heard, she's suddenly making a LOT of money after meeting with men for a couple of hours during the day. (while still dating this rich guy) She was a really fun, intelligent woman, but damn she was screwed up in the head. Some of the things she'd do after they got married... it floored me my relative stayed with her. She could put on the best act in the world, pretend she was anyone she wanted to be, she could fit in with pretty much any social crowd. She seemed normal at first, except for the stripping, but she didn't have any education, etc, so it was understandable why she did it. But the more we got to know her, the more we got to see how completely screwed up she was. I've had a few friends go into stripping, and they weren't the same afterward. It does something to a person, and it isn't good. It took a long time for one of my friends to get her head back on straight and she only stripped for a few months.
Walk Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 There's an article about this exact same thing here. Yup, that was her in a nut shell. Except my relative had an ego the size of earth, so he didn't care if they went out all the time. In fact, he loved it. Wanted other men to want her. My relative spent money on her like water, but that's just his personality. He'd blow a hundred at the bar without blinking. Last thing... they had two beautiful little girls together, who are just now going to kindegarten. She hardly talks to them anymore, doesn't call. See's them about once a month. They ask where their mom is all the time. They ask if she still loves them. When she has them for the weekend, the girls come back and tell how mom had men over all weekend. How she dropped them off at some womans house so she could go out saturday night. Then picked them up late sunday and got them ready to go home. No one matters to her, but herself. Not even her own children. But she sure played the game for several years. She was reformed. She had goals and ambitions. She was a loving parent, and spouse. Didn't last long.
morrigan Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 One of my sister's friends was a featured dancer before she opened her gyms. Most of her relationships ended because the guys couldn't deal with her travel and work schedule. She was always gone and had her own life. Some of the women have business sense and keep their personal lives seperate, others have serious issues. If she wasn't a stripper, would you still be interested in dating her? If you're not into farming or her personal interests, just date her casually.
littlekitty Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 My partner is a ex-stripper. Now to me there is a big difference between men stripping for women and women stripping for men. When men strip for women it's much less sexual. That aside, he no longer strips (did grams and was a in a big all male strip/dance troup). I don't have an issue if he wants to do the odd gram for some money (to spend on me!! ), but I have said I wouldn't be comfortable with him touring away from me. The main thing I wanted to say, is in my case, it's no reflection of the man. He is the most caring, loving, wonderful man I have ever met. Don't judge a book by the cover.
mememememe Posted December 8, 2005 Posted December 8, 2005 Don't you realize the associations with stripping? It is not a "blanket statement" or generalization. Stripping simply goes hand in hand with sleaze, slime, poor self-image, danger, dirty $$, prostitution and drugs. Just because a stripper doesn't use drugs or sell herself, doesn't mean that she and those close to her will not somehow be affected by her lifestyle. Wake up. You don't have to make $$ as a stripper to be a "freak" or sexually open. I would be really careful. I have a few friends who dated strippers and it was not worth the "wild ride". It doesn't mean you have to JUDGE her, but you do need to discern for yourself. I wouldn't JUDGE a drug addict because I can't say I wouldn't do the SAME in their specific and person situation; however I can say I would not date or marry a drug addict because of the bull that comes with a certain lifestyle. Sad, but true.
High Contrast Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 I had a one-night stand with a stripper. Of course I had a wild night but what a head case! Never again.
scobro Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 I had a one-night stand with a stripper. Of course I had a wild night but what a head case! Never again. Me too!!!
Art_Critic Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 Me too!!! Same here.. only it didn't start out as a one night stand..I met her online After the sex she tells me that she is a stripper and she just got out of prison for armed robbery.. I never spoke to her again Boy she was hot though..
High Contrast Posted December 9, 2005 Posted December 9, 2005 After the sex she tells me that she is a stripper and she just got out of prison for armed robbery.. I never spoke to her again Oh how shallow! You should have given her a chance!
Author Yamaha Posted December 9, 2005 Author Posted December 9, 2005 Believe me, I am not interested in getting serious with her. I really am not wild about dating her but I want to give her a chance as she asked me out. I also realize that she has some friends that I am not crazy about ( drugs, etc ) but I can deal with the life style. She knows what kind of a guy I am and she knows I have no interest in joining her life style. I appreciate all your advice and I agree with your experiences.
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