JeT'Aime Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 My boyfriend and i have been going out for a little over a year. today, when i logged onto his email, i saw that he had written on one of his old g/f's "walls" on facebook. i don't know if you guys know what this is, but it's a place for college students to meet and talk to eachother. anyways, i saw that he wrote, "My first love...we should get together over xmas break" Should i be jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 If he has hidden this from you be concerned. Regardless if it was a new or past female I would question his motives........ the first love line certainly points to more than just friends...... a4a Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 I think theres reason for concern. Have you asked him about this email? Or does he not know you saw it? As far as you wondering if you should be jealous, only you know how you truly feel. If you are then its ok thats how you feel on the matter. I think you can either ask him about it, call him out on it. Cahnces are he may give you a lame excuse, but then again maybe it was harmelss. However, calling al ex "My first love" doesn't sound harmless. Or the other thing you could do is lay low with it and see if you come across anymore emails. Did she reply back to him? Jade Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 If he has hidden this from you be concerned. Regardless if it was a new or past female I would question his motives........ the first love line certainly points to more than just friends...... a4a Definitely a motive there and you need to have a talk with him and tell him of your feelings and ask him what was meant by it!! Link to post Share on other sites
nyguidette Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 You run risks of confronting him...does he know you log onto his e-mail??? That could piss him off if he doesn't. BUt, I would wait and see what else he writes...see if he "goes out with his friends" during Christmas when he might actually be with her... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 If you are sure in his love, if he is faithful and trustworthy overall then don't be jealous until he gives you a better reason for it. What matters is how he feels about you and about her. Showing your jealousy and insecurity will only make him respect you less. Link to post Share on other sites
Tessie Posted December 9, 2005 Share Posted December 9, 2005 I'm pretty big on trusting your significant other with ex's unless you are given reason not to trust them. And if you have reason not to trust them then why be with them? If you had permission from him to go into his email I would just straight out tell him what you found while in there. If you didn't have permission to be in there, then you aren't earning any trust either. You obviously already don't trust him or you wouldn't be snooping. Not to mention if he checked your emails without your permission you'd prolly be pissed. Regardless of all that - the "first love" thing sounds kinda bad. I would talk to him about it. I guess it could be just a nickname that stuck - but I'm doubting it. & if it is just a nickname - it's not appropriate anymore. Get his side of the story. Expect him to be upset about the sneaking into his email. Trust your gut when you talk to him about it. You can usually tell when a guy's lying about something like that. (I try to be open-minded - but in this case I'd guess there's something still there between him. I mean - I'm best friends with my ex. I call him Ross - not hun or first lov or sweetie....) Link to post Share on other sites
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