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I live in Florida.I am wondering if any one knows.How much is the husband responsiable for? One child involved and wife ill with lupus,not to mention the nervous breakdown she has suffered b/c of him,all by his choice.

I did have to go to a Mental Health Ceanter yesterday.What caused it, I lost hope,after talking with him last Tuesday nite.I really listened to what he ws saying.We are done,he does not want to be with me right now,can't say how he will feel later,but when he's "Real"mad at me,He lets me know"Thats why"is what I hear.(whatever it is I do/don't do that doesn't please him)He has made mention of a time that I was done with him,lasted about 1 month,maybe a lillte long.An I got over it-that I have went thru it,why can't he?

Me already very upset from yesterday.We got into a fight b/c I wouldn't do something, I did in fact tell him I would do,but changed my mind,yes out of anger an he told him he was never coming back to me,he was not responsiable for me and i got the last bit of money I was gonna get,this is all because I didn't give him something he wanted,in the end he did get what he wanted,I handed it to him,his reply"This don't change anything.Wow!!!!!!!

that wore me out just typing it.He will get mad at me,an say "Why would I want to come back to someone like you"

Messed up

I will post more,I'm just worn out.

Tricia

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I live in Florida.I am wondering if any one knows.How much is the husband responsiable for?

 

The laws vary from state to state. I don't know whether Florida is a community property state, but such laws would have a significant effect.

 

A father does have a legal responsiblity for financial support in most cases. I would recommend discussing the particulars of your case with an attorney, though.

 

On a side note, it may do you well to avoid talking or any other contact with him for the time being. It seems to only be making things worse.

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Honey, don't let his abusive words hurt you. You know you are worth something, you've just tied too much of your self esteem up in what this ass thinks.

 

Let me give you a suggestion. Write everything down. What he says, when he does it, what happens, every situation. Keep a journal of it. This will help show a pattern of abuse when you go to court.

 

Secondly, you can google Child Support Rates in Florida to find out exactly how much he has to pay. It may be possible for you to also get SS or disability on your child with lupus if there is not a father present. I do not believe he will have to pay more because you had a nervous breakdown. Spousal support is a rare thing these days- no matter what the conduct of the ex.

 

Please, please, take the power back from him on this. Go ahead, talk to the atty and know what your rights are.

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Thanx for all of your advice,an I know NC is what is best.It is sooooo hard thou,ESP. when there is a children involved.Just when I start feeling better,I talk to him or worse see him.Everything gets worse.

I did check out the child support calculator.You have to pay for it,I haven't found a free one.When he left,so did the credit cards,so I'm outta luck there.I did find something interesting thou.

 

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FLORIDA SPOUSAL SUPPORT: The court may grant rehabilitative or permanent alimony to either spouse in either lump-sum or periodic payments or both. Adultery is a factor in the award. Other factors which are considered are: (1) the time necessary to acquire sufficient education and training to enable the spouse to find appropriate employment, and that spouse's future earning capacity; (2) the standard of living established during the marriage; (3) the duration of the marriage; (4) the sources of income available to either party; (5) the contribution of each spouse to the marriage, including services rendered in homemaking, child care, education, and career building of the other spouse; (6) the age of the spouses; (7) the physical and emotional conditions of the spouses; each spouse's share of marital assets and liabilities; and (8) any other factor the court deems just and equitable. Alimony payments made be ordered to be paid through a state depository, but this is not required if there are no minor children. [Florida Statutes Annotated; Chapter 61.08].

 

I don't yet know what I will do,give myself time an him space,I am gonna try anyway.

Thanx again,

Blond

 

PS.-----Slub,I did try to send U a PM,it ofcoarse won't let me.I wanted ur wisdom on something I would rather not post in the forum.

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Yea, having the PM function makes a lot of sense when you don't want stuff splashed all over the board. I think you have to get up to 50 posts though.

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ack...I put up my email address so you could send me a note... but I removed it because we're not supposed to do that. I was hoping you'd see it before I tookit off.

 

[email protected]

 

Put up a note once you've got it, ok?

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