Ever feel lost?

[ES]

I have been living like a living dead for 4 years, with no goals and direction in life.Feel like needing a change of lifestyle and need some stimumlation to get me motivated again.I'm sure at least some of you will have similiar experience.So what do you do to try to get out of this?

[Tony T]

Sounds like you have a case of clinical depression, although I am not a medical doctor. Before you do anything, you should see a physician for evaluation. There are some excellent anti-depressants out there and I have heard of many people whose lives were changed dramatically once they got on them.

 

If you do have clinical depression, you will have little motivation or energy to take any measures to get yourself out of this rut. In that case, have someone drive you to the doctor.

 

If you are able to, change as many things in your life as possible. Clean your living quarters, move the furniture around, change your phone number and give it only to those who are positive in your life.

 

If there has been something in your life that has put you in this valley, get help from a therapist to get yourself out of it.

 

Change your diet. Get off sugar, soft drinks, deserts, etc. and start eating more lean meats, vegetables, fruits, grains, etc.

 

Exercise is a major mood builder. When you exercise vigorously, endorphins are released into the brain that boost your mood and make you feel better about the world. If you're overweight, you'll have lots more energy, feel better about yourself and be much more motivated when you lose weight, change your diet, and get some nice new clothes.

 

Again, my best guess is that you suffer from depression. Even before you see the doctor, try to pick yourself up and take some nice long walks. If you're out of shape, build yourself up gradually. You have to make a major committment but you can do it. Begin some exercise as soon as you can, taking it slowly and building yourself up. I guarantee you'll feel better after even a few days.

 

Once you get yourself together personally, meeting nice new friends and romantic interests will go even further in making you feel better about being alive.

 

Don't waste time. You won't live forever.

 

Carpe Diem. Seize the day...there are only so many of them.

 

Go rent the movie, Dead Poets Society, and watch it as soon as possible.

 

Get off your butt!!!

[marzipan75]

I constantly feel lost. My ex broke up w/me after 8 years together and a month ago I didn't feel like I could stand to get up in the morning or do anything anymore. The feeling subsides and friends are a great source of support. Do you have any close friends who can help with your struggle for motivation? It sounds like you may be lonely and that's very natural for everyone. Right now I try to be as positive as I can and I just try to have as much fun as I can in whatever I am doing. Whether it's at work or at home in my spare time, I try to laugh at least once a day and I try to keep busy when I am alone. I chat online here and listen to other people's problems to see if maybe I can help them out or maybe they can help me. It helps to tune in here because I know that nobody is going to judge me and there's always somebody in here who can give me some kind of advice.

 

The point is, your motivation has to come from you no matter what. It sounds like you're in some kind of rut and you don't know how to dig yourself out. Start simple, start with something small like maybe a hobby. Go out for a walk or ride a bike, do something outdoors or with one of your friends. Find out what they do and see if maybe something they do doesn't interest you. It is incredibly hard to find motivation when you seem to be running the same circle in life but you can't wait for something to fall into your lap. You have to get some strength within yourself to go out there and see what else is waiting for you. I'm not talking thrill seeking or anything complicated here but what about leisure learning, or a church group (and there are non denominational churches that are awesome ex: Unitarian) or maybe even going to the gym once a week.

 

If you don't have a lot of friends what about a family member? Have you tried talking to some of them? I've never met anyone who's family members didn't have an opinion about the way they live their lives and sometimes (like this) that can be a blessing in disguise.

 

So that's what I do. It is not easy, it is easier to come home every day and sink into the sofa with a bag of chips than to get out there and find fun and interesting things to do but you gotta want to do it. It's different for everybody. For me it's little things, go see a movie with a friend here, go to a club there, have dinner with so and so, go rollerblading, running, play a game online with other people you've never met. Or join a chat room and talk to people (like here) who are in same situations as yours.

 

If you think you may be depressed then don't waste any time, go to a doctor because they can certainly help.

 

Well, I know I've written an awful lot here so I hope this has helped you at least a little bit.

 

Good luck and hang in there.

I have been living like a living dead for 4 years, with no goals and direction in life.Feel like needing a change of lifestyle and need some stimumlation to get me motivated again.I'm sure at least some of you will have similiar experience.So what do you do to try to get out of this?