blind or just dumb Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 we have been dating for sometime now and just recently started living together,we have just about stoped haveing sex.It only happens when he wants it.I have started a job where I work nights on the weekends I leave about 2 30 pm and dont come home until late (between 1 30am 4 30 am)and he is off on weekends.well last night when I came in he jumped up out of a sleep and looked next to him with a look of panic.When he got up to go to work he jumped up and got in the shower i got up to start the laungry and found a shirt that i have never seen before under his work clothes with semen on it.I tryed to tell myself he may have just done his self its nothing to worry (even though he has never done that before)about then i remember him telling me one of his girls he talks to on the computer said hi they have made arragments to meet before but she got suck at work .When he talks to her on the computer he wont answer her if i am in the room or if i am looking at the screen.I just dont know what to think am i blind or jumping to conculions? Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 A quick word of warning. You will now recieve a heap of melodramatic posting telling you that this or that or the other is a sur sign that he's cheating. If only it were that simple. The fact is that there is no SURE SIGN. No such luck. You said you werent having sex any more. Are you having none at all, eg have you gone for more than a month without him so much as even feelining you up a little. Or are you simply not having as much sex as you used to? The second is actually a good sign among men. Its a sign of committment. As you have pointed out a little semen means nothing. He could have done it himself. You said he had never done that before but I've got a problem with this simply because virtually ALL guys do it. Are you tolerant enough that he cold do it under your nose? Believe me many, many, girls arent. This could explain both the semen and his waking with such a start when you surprised him. Likewise how intolerant are you about every other female he happend to be friends with. (I know I'm being confrontational but I have to be, to give you some idea of whats going on.) If you don't mind, AND you've made a point of telling him that, then he's got nothing to hide from you. It may ALL be in your head but it does appear that he is hiding something. But that could be someting as simple as his masturbation habits and a stray internet buddy that he's never met face to face. A couple of final facts. More women actually cheat than men. up to 50% of married men and a whopping 80% of married women. (Or only 20% of married women who dont cheat.) . And, in the case of a genuine cheat the artner is usualy the last person to actually know about it. Link to post Share on other sites
1011101111 Posted December 27, 2005 Share Posted December 27, 2005 we have been dating for sometime now and just recently started living together,we have just about stoped haveing sex.It only happens when he wants it.I have started a job where I work nights on the weekends I leave about 2 30 pm and dont come home until late (between 1 30am 4 30 am)and he is off on weekends.well last night when I came in he jumped up out of a sleep and looked next to him with a look of panic.When he got up to go to work he jumped up and got in the shower i got up to start the laungry and found a shirt that i have never seen before under his work clothes with semen on it.I tryed to tell myself he may have just done his self its nothing to worry (even though he has never done that before)about then i remember him telling me one of his girls he talks to on the computer said hi they have made arragments to meet before but she got suck at work .When he talks to her on the computer he wont answer her if i am in the room or if i am looking at the screen.I just dont know what to think am i blind or jumping to conculions? my girl always talks to other guys on msn and it bothers me terrably I have also found many other guys numbers on her person. i dont know if im jumping to conclusions or if im justified as for my fealings. however I am leaving for the military and will be away from her for two and a monthes on end I have no idea if I should just cut this off like an infected limb and just deal with it cause thats how I feel.Metaphoricaly I love my limb more then anything in the world because it is part of me but if I don't cut it off it will poison and kill me. im only 20. and sick of this Its what happend last time and history may repeat. Also about the missfire on the shirt every guy I have every known wanks it from time to time and he may just be nervious about telling you cause he's embaressd well its natural. as for the jumpyness im am always jumpy what stateld from sleep still I only trust a few Men and I trust them with my life not my heart. So thank you for listining I hope I have helped you Link to post Share on other sites
Unreg11111111111 Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Configure the chat program to log his conversations. Link to post Share on other sites
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