IPW Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 I'd like your opinions for the girl in reference to read. What do you think she should do based on the things her boyfriend has done and the way he treats her? Thanks for posting any replies Whenever there was anyone else around he would act cold toward her yet flirting with other girls, ignoring her and talking to other people, not holding hands or kissing her like normal couples might do in public. When she questions him as to why he's doing it, he laughs it off and tells her to stop being paranoid. He tells her that people are chasing him after beating up the wrong person, and he's under police protection and he isn't allowed to see her while they are back home because it would be dangerous for her. Coincidently this means he has to tell girl #2 that he is single, and spends all holiday in her company instead. Girl #2 has fancied him for a long time. He still doesn't tell her they are together when supposed situation has been resolved. Girl #2 randomly appears to visit, later its discovered she was invited, however he insists he didn't know she was coming. He then pays a visit to girl #2 later on, not answering phone calls or text messages from his girlfriend, and says he "was busy". He gets annoyed when his girlfriend speaks to her friends and hangs out with them, gets very demanding and insists she should be with him, they arrange evenings together and he cancels last minute as he's busy with other people. Anything she complains about, he twists around calling her paranoid and saying if she loved him she wouldn't be asking why he doesn't return calls etc. On her birthday, rather than spending it with his girlfriend, he goes on holiday abroad for 2 weeks with girl #2, who still thinks he's single, despite having told his girlfriend many times that she knows they are still together. They sleep in the same tent. He doesn't even call to say happy birthday to his girlfriend. In a diary he confesses his feelings toward girl #2 and says he doesn't want to break the heart of the girl who loves him when girl #2 says she wants him. Written down are pages of poems. In the back is a poem wrote by girl #2 referring to a 'glimpse' of a 'wasted future' in reference to the holiday and just before it, him wishing the port was closed so they could have stayed abroad longer, despite telling his girlfriend how much he hated it and how they argued all the time. He promises to see his girlfriend after he gets back from the holiday, straigt away, instead he spends the evening with girl #2 and comes home in the early hours. His girlfriend had spent the evening in the arms of *his* mum crying with her, and her mum saying how awful he's treating her. Also wrote in his diary, is how he went on a date with girl #3 while a few months ago, despite being 2 years in a relationship with his girlfriend. Taken to a ball by girl #4, not refusing to go, because he felt it would be impolite after she had invited and bought him a ticket. Link to post Share on other sites
hotrod12345 Posted December 12, 2005 Share Posted December 12, 2005 She must not dump him. She needs to date other guys while with him and let him know about it and eventually she will find someone new she likes and she can leave the old guy without feeling lonely. done. Link to post Share on other sites
ZGT1503 Posted December 13, 2005 Share Posted December 13, 2005 Personally I would have left this guy long ago. Easier said than done, when you are the one tied up in the situation and feelings are involved. But if these really are the facts (there are always 2 sides to every story but if all these things are true then that's enough) then that is no way to treat someone you love. She deserves better than this. For him to say things like "if she loved him she wouldn't ask him why he doesn't return calls" is emotional blackmail and she should spend her time looking for someone who will treat her how she would a) like and b) deserves. If my boyfriend was telling people he was single and spending time with other girls like this, then I would walk away. Just my opinion! Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted December 13, 2005 Share Posted December 13, 2005 He is a jerk, she should embarress him in a public place, dump him and retain her pride. Or as the above post says, get with guy#5.2 and tell guy #3.987, no wait thats all wrong she should not under any circumstance draw anyone else into this mess. Just tell him to get lost and grow up. Link to post Share on other sites
Kitteney Posted December 13, 2005 Share Posted December 13, 2005 From what I can gather, Girlfriend #1 thinks she's a girlfriend, when in fact she is merely a friend who happens to be a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
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