lost/found? Posted December 13, 2005 Share Posted December 13, 2005 I am having a conundrum, When my live in girlfriend of 5years broke up with me, i left the house and the province putting my career on hold. I need to get back to work for obvious reasons. i really have no choice but to go back to where I lived and continue my career. the only problem is that i really have no other choice but to stay with her until i can get my feet back on the ground. I still want her back but i don't know if this will jeopardize any chance i have with her. can ayone tell me if this is a terrible idea or will it maybe open the door to a possible reunion with her. I have to do what's best for me and getting my career back on track is just that, i cannot and will not let a girl ruin my goals and aspirations. but i still want the opportunity to rekindle what we had. if you need more info please read my other threads Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 13, 2005 Share Posted December 13, 2005 Can't you stay with a friend instead? Why does it have to be with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost/found? Posted December 13, 2005 Author Share Posted December 13, 2005 I don't have any friends that i am close enough with there that i would feel comfortable to ask to stay with, and me and the ex are still in communication, just small talk and happy talk no relationship issues have been brought up for awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost/found? Posted December 14, 2005 Author Share Posted December 14, 2005 also, i believe she is starting to come around, one of her friends called me today to say that she is having some serious second thoughts about the break-up and to hang in there. "it's good to have hope but you can't let hope rule your life" Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 14, 2005 Share Posted December 14, 2005 also, i believe she is starting to come around, one of her friends called me today to say that she is having some serious second thoughts about the break-up and to hang in there. "it's good to have hope but you can't let hope rule your life" Be careful about getting someone else involved. You need to wait for your Ex to contact you. Anything you do to speed up the reconciliation process will just throw a monkey wrench into the works. What caused the demise of the relationship? Have you worked earnestly on areas you could improve upon? If you go back to where you were when you broke up and not much has changed, it probably won't work out. Take things slow, don't be in a rush. Do try and find someone else to stay with and let her bring up the conversation of a reconciliation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost/found? Posted December 14, 2005 Author Share Posted December 14, 2005 Actually her friend called me out of the blue, i don't know why she would say that to me either, but i believe i have made some huge changes in my life since the breakup, i quit smoking marijuana after being an everday smoker for 10 years and the fog has finally lifted, and i know that was one of the major problem causers in our relationship. I didn't do it to get her back but i did it for my own well being and it was the best decision of my life. i don't know if i would have been able to do it without the breakup, so some things are a blessing in disguise... Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 14, 2005 Share Posted December 14, 2005 Actually her friend called me out of the blue, i don't know why she would say that to me either, but i believe i have made some huge changes in my life since the breakup, i quit smoking marijuana after being an everday smoker for 10 years and the fog has finally lifted, and i know that was one of the major problem causers in our relationship. I didn't do it to get her back but i did it for my own well being and it was the best decision of my life. i don't know if i would have been able to do it without the breakup, so some things are a blessing in disguise... Is she aware of this? Did her friend tell her. If she wants to call you and reconcile, let her do it. Don't force it or you will chase her away. Congrats on getting cleaned up and actually doing it. Stick to it and perhaps you have a chance. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lost/found? Posted December 14, 2005 Author Share Posted December 14, 2005 thank you for the advice cali guy! will do. it was actually easier to quit and stay off the dope with so much other stuff on my mind. I don't know if her friend was throwing that information out there to see how i would react or what, but she has seemed genuinely concerned with the demise of our relationship Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 14, 2005 Share Posted December 14, 2005 thank you for the advice cali guy! will do. it was actually easier to quit and stay off the dope with so much other stuff on my mind. I don't know if her friend was throwing that information out there to see how i would react or what, but she has seemed genuinely concerned with the demise of our relationship Give us an update if you hear from the friend or her. I'm curious to know what happens. I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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