Why are some men so jealous and possive?

[chiu]

to the point of insanity?

 

typical behavioural patterns: they don't follow their gf to dress sexily

 

they think everyman is after their girls, despite that their girls maybe very ordinarily looking

[sparkle]

Most likely, they're so jealous because they feel very insecure about themselves, and they think that anyone will snatch the girl away from them. If they felt good about themselves, they would know that the girl wants to be with THEM, and not anyone else.

 

About guys being "possive", that's not a word in my dictionary. But if you meant possessive, that's also a sign of insecurity and low self-esteem.

 

If you're with a guy that does this, you need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him that if he doesn't fix his problem and doesn't start trusting you, then you will leave him.

 

Don't ever stay in a relationship in which you aren't happy.

[Tony T]

Men who are jealous are generally very insecure and often have low self esteem. A lot of them have been cheated on in the past or had their girlfriends begin some other guy in the midst of their dating.

 

Some jealous guys project their own motives onto others. They know that when they eye over or talk to a female, they have in mind more than just friendship. So they figure other guys who do the same thing have that in mind too.

 

There are many reasons for this jealousy and possessiveness but the bottom line is immaturity. A mature individual realizes that people can't be controlled. If the other person becomes attracted to somebody else, that's just the way it's supposed to be and you move on.

 

I suppose some of it may be due to primitive instincts that call for the male to be protective of his territory and possessions, which thoussands of years ago included his female. So there must be a primitive part of the brain that kicks in under certain circumstances. However, in modern society there is just no good purpose served by any human trying to possess another. It's actually rather juvenile.

 

A lot of people just don't want to have their ego crushed further. They fail to realize that everything works out in the wash...and if their partner leaves them for someone else, no big deal. Someone better is right around the corner.

[chiu]

Men who are jealous are generally very insecure and often have low self esteem. A lot of them have been cheated on in the past or had their girlfriends begin some other guy in the midst of their dating. Some jealous guys project their own motives onto others. They know that when they eye over or talk to a female, they have in mind more than just friendship. So they figure other guys who do the same thing have that in mind too. There are many reasons for this jealousy and possessiveness but the bottom line is immaturity. A mature individual realizes that people can't be controlled. If the other person becomes attracted to somebody else, that's just the way it's supposed to be and you move on. I suppose some of it may be due to primitive instincts that call for the male to be protective of his territory and possessions, which thoussands of years ago included his female. So there must be a primitive part of the brain that kicks in under certain circumstances. However, in modern society there is just no good purpose served by any human trying to possess another. It's actually rather juvenile. A lot of people just don't want to have their ego crushed further. They fail to realize that everything works out in the wash...and if their partner leaves them for someone else, no big deal. Someone better is right around the corner.

[Tony T]

Girls enjoy men to be jealous and possessive because they are critically ill mentally and immature as well. They are also this way for the same reasons that men are jealous and possessive...because they are very insecure, immature and have very low self esteem.

 

It is impossible to have a healthy relationship with these emotions present.