pivotal Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years. The question is not are we going to get engaged/married, rather it's just a matter of time. We have both saved and decided to put our money to use and build a house now rather than waiting for the interest rates to climb etc etc. Long story short, ladies what do you think of surprising my g/f with an engagement ring for Christmas, or a few days before? Is it a tacky idea? I don't want to take away from the thrill of asking her by doing it on or near a major holiday yet it wouldn't be so bad to be able to think of the moment I proposed every Christmas. Ladies of the board, opinions please. In reality is there really ever a wrong time? Link to post Share on other sites
slinkysu Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Ask her - i am sure she will be thrilled and many congratulations to you both. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Ask her!! I'm sure she'll be excited. Do you spend Christmas with family? If so, ask her a few days before, that way she'll be able to show off her ring. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 No, there is never really a bad time if you're in love with the person and want to marry them. I echo the poster who said give it to her in time for her to show it off to her friends and family. Make it a romantic surprise! Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 OK. I'm gonna tell you my story. My husband proposed to me on Christmas eve night before a raging fire with no lights on but the Christmas tree. Doris Day Christmas album playing in background (my favorite). Simple proposal down on one knee with profession of love and then "Will you marry me?" (We picked ring out together). But then having the ring come out so she's totally bowled over. Wow! Then she'll get to show off her new ring to everyone on Christmas. Tacky? No way. Set the scene so it's one she'll remember forever. Lots of candles. Good smells. You could even have friends and family come over and Christmas carol outside your door while you propose as your background music, then open the door for a party. Whatever. It's been 25 years and it's a scene I'll never forget. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Pivotal: OOOO, I say, "Give it to her." Umm . . . the ring, I mean. Tell us all the details after you propose. Inquiring minds wanna know. Becoming: That is a beautiful story . . . Congrats on 25 years. Link to post Share on other sites
pivotal Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Thank you to everyone for the votes of confidence! I'm planning on doing it Friday the 23rd. I figured we would go into NYC to see the tree at Rockefeller, do some window shopping, then take a carriage ride through central park. I plan to propose during the carriage ride. The best part about this is that I've wanted to take her to see the tree but every year something has come up. So in essence she won't have any clue, not to mention I told her we wouldn't officially get engaged until the house was built (sometime next summer). Becoming - that was a very nice story, thanks for sharing it. thanks again, I'll let you know how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
Tamrick Posted December 16, 2005 Share Posted December 16, 2005 Hope it goes well. I think its good not to choose a holiday - I've heard of a lot of people having trouble over that time and adding another anniversary to an already big celebration can make things difficult, however many people have chosen those days successfully. You seem to have planned the event very well - it sounds great. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeRealistic Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 Do it Its like you are getting married on a Holiday, you are getting engaged; it will make the day that much more memoriable and family will be pleased with the good news Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 Pivotal: Your plan sounds very nice. Best wishes. (Don't forget that I'll be here Monday, expecting details. LOL ) Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 Your plan sounds very romantic! I won't be around next week, so heres an early: Congrats!! :love: Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 congratulations, piv ... I think she's going to be bowled over no matter WHEN you propose, because it's the idea of your proposal that counts. And from what you shared, it sounds really, really romantic. :love: best of luck to the both of you, with the pending marriage AND home construction. Your lady is going to have a happy Christmas this year Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 Tacky no not at all !! I think it would very sweet and she would be very lucky and very surprized it would floor her!! Link to post Share on other sites
sassy Posted December 24, 2005 Share Posted December 24, 2005 Yes I personally think it is a bad idea. I just recently got engaged and I had made it a point to tell my fiance that I did not want the ring for Christmas. Proposing on Christmas is very typical. You want that moment to be speacial, and not associated with a holiday. Maybe I'm just a brat, but I would still expect a gift...not just the ring! Link to post Share on other sites
pivotal Posted December 29, 2005 Share Posted December 29, 2005 Thanks again to everyone that replied. I proposed on Friday the 23rd in Central Park. We saw the tree, did some window shopping and took a carriage ride like I planned. The only thing was that the driver could not stop the carriage during the ride like I had planned. So we walked back into the park, went by the skating rink and down to the pond where I proposed. We haven't set a date yet but we're thinking of late fall '07. It may have been "typical" to do it this time of year but we can always remember the moment and the feeling the city has just before Christmas. Sassy - I appreciate your opinion and thank you for responding. I agree the ring should not be in place of a gift, trust me she made out ok on Christmas day as well! As far as associating it with a holiday, I had reservations at first as well. However with the help of the members here I decided there really is never a bad time to propose. All in all both my fiance and I wouldn't change a thing about the day or the way I proposed. thanks again to everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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