roonisgirl Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Merry Xmas everyone! In the past, I have posted twice with problelms regarding my alcoholic husband, that I'm 99% sure that he has been unfaithful to me. I'm the gal who had posted about her husband working out of town, and how he changed his stories a bunch of times, and seemed worried about STD's. Anyways, I wanted to update my story, and let you all know whats been going on. This time he was home, I told him that we needed to talk about some things later that night. He had been laying on the floor watching tv, but after telling him we needed to talk, boy! he sat right up, suddenly very concerned. The rest of the day, he was suddenly cleaning the house, helping our kids with their homeschool, basically kissing butt. He never has been very affectionate with me unless sex is involved, but I had to pass by him, to get to the kitchen, and he grabbed me and gave me a hug & kiss, which kinda threw me off. Later that evening, We were talking, and I told him that I had started seeing a counslor, and that I wanted him to go with me. I then asked him why he keeps making comments about me having a boyfriend on the side, and his usual response was " I was just joking around" I told him that my counslor told me that spouses who accuse their husband or wife of having a boyfriend/girlfriend on the side, ususally means that either they have been cheating, or that they have those thoughts in their head, and they are trying to unload their guilt onto their spouse, who is inocent. When I mentioned this to him. he denied it, but his reaction told a different story. Anyways, now that he knows I'm seeing a counslor, he is suddenly more attentive, and helping around the house more. Gee!! I wonder why? If my husband wasn't so secretive and had such a bad habit of lying about small and big things, I would feel more secure, but some of the things that I've caught him being dishonnest about, are small unimportant things, and bigger things, so if he will lie about small things, he will for sure lie about the bigger things. Now that he knows I''m seeing a counslor, he keeps making comments about how they don't work, and they're just money hungry. I know that he doen't want to go with me, because he will have to face reality and deal with whatever he has been doing behind my back. He's sweating big time!! and I am kind of enjoying it. Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 I told him that my counslor told me that spouses who accuse their husband or wife of having a boyfriend/girlfriend on the side, ususally means that either they have been cheating, or that they have those thoughts in their head, and they are trying to unload their guilt onto their spouse, who is inocent. well, i don't know if i would have told him that...now he can turn it around and apply it to you. see what i mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted December 15, 2005 Share Posted December 15, 2005 Advice? Find out for sure if he's having an affair with proof so that you really do have something he can't lie his way out of. Link to post Share on other sites
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