Should I be worried?

[shady_lady]

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 1 year in january. I have recently found out that he met 2 18 year old girls from the msn public profile. They emailed him and he added them to his messenger. He met them in March, meanwhile I have already been dating him for 2 months at that time. He told me about it this summer but made it out to be a joke, well he admitted to meeting one of the girls but I noticed on his messenger that there was another girls email that I did not recgonize. He told me that it was a male friends name and he does not speak to him. But through another guy friend of mine I had found out the 2 girls are friends from out of town and he had met them offline. My BF lied about it, who they were and made me give him my passwords for my emails and messenger, so I told him to give me his. That is how I found out he met them in March. I'm confused. He has trust issues with me, but if I mention it to him that I have trust issues with him then he first laughs then says I am crazy? Am I crazy? Do I have a right to be mad?

[purtyinpink_11]

I think you have the right to be mad primarily b/c he lied to you. Apparently he thinks it's ok and is not taking ur feelings into consideration. I think he needs to understand that in order for you to trust him and vice versa, you guys need to be open w/each other. All this is just going to make you more paranoid but I think you should ask him how does he expect for you to trust him when he's doing things behind your back instead of talking to you about it...GL

[RecordProducer]

If they are merely friends and he hid them from you - it's bad. But it's much worse if he has dated or flirted with them behind your back.

 

You can always be mad, but in my opinion, the best thing to do is to ask him to come clear about the whole situation. Tell him that you won't be mad if he admits what really happened and doesn't hide things from you from now on. If however you find out later that he was lying to you about the nature of his relationship with them - you'll know what to do. Make it clear that dishonesty on his part is a deal-breaker and you won't tolerate lies. He can't hide things from you for too long anyway.