BBW and Sex

[lovestobesexed]

I am a blonde hair blue eyed woman with a great big bubbly personality, and very open minded. That is where it stops. I am overweight, and weigh about 270 pounds. I have no problems with my body except when it comes to sex.

Now I met up with a ***** buddy who loves being with me, and he must because he has been seeing alot of me lately.

We get naked and have the greatest sex all the time, but I cant help but feel inferior when we are getting it on. I have asked him several times if my weight is an issue with him and he says no he likes me. But in the back of my mind is that I am fat and ugly. Because that is what my hubby has ingrained in my mind.

SO to the men, would you make love with a BBW and why or why not.

And yes I have tried to lose the weight, and I have tried all the diets in the world and I am just gonna be happy with who I am.

 

The reason I have a ***** buddy is because of hubbys health and we dont have sex. I have decided to get me some loving elsewhere. So please dont bash me for that, he has no desire to do anything with me.

 

any thoughts or advice would be great

[Becoming]

in the back of my mind is that I am fat and ugly. Because that is what my hubby has ingrained in my mind. . . .

The reason I have a ***** buddy is because of hubbys health and we dont have sex. I have decided to get me some loving elsewhere.

 

I'm sorry your husband has said some things that highlight your insecurity. These are mean things to say.

 

Why are you still with someone who makes you feel so bad?

[lovestobesexed]

Pretty much he is a great guy with the exception of when he gets on a roll. His insults can sometimes be daily other times not so much.

I pretty much stay with him because of his health, he needs me to take care of him or he would be dead.

And that he is the only man that has not physically assaulted me, but his emotional abuse is just as bad.

 

I am not convinced that another man would want me. They would see me from the outside and think I am not a nice person. Whereas I have a heart of gold and people have told me many positive things about myself.

They say I have so many positive things going for me that my weight is not an issue. But to many men, it is.

At least that is what I think.

I have never been without a man, just have not met the right one.

[RecordProducer]

LTBS, you will probably feel much better about yourself and your body if you lose weight. Start with eating very little. The only way tolose weight is to be hungry all the time. Sleep a lot and walk or swim also.

 

You will not only lower the risk of health problems if you lose weight, but think of all the hot guys that will be after you! It's not that hard to be hungry. Just keep your goals in mind.

 

If this guy tells you he doesn't mind his weight, I would believe him. After all, if he did, he wouldn't sleep with you.

 

Regarding your hubby... well he was honest with you about his preference. My husband doesn't like it fat and he is honest about it. He complains when I gain 10 lbs. It bothered me at the beginning, but then I realized he's right. I do look much better when I am thin and I am glad he is willing to keep me motivated to stay thin.

[Becoming]

It seems to me that your weight is symptomatic of deeper emotional issues, not just of unhealthy food choices. No judgment here! People who are not overweight often don't have the emotional issues overweight folks do, so they think it's just a matter of making the right choices. My sister worked for Weight Watchers and quit because as a counselor with she saw that over 90% of the folks who are clinically obese had been abused and unless the emotional component of weight loss is adequately addressed, all weight loss will be temporary.

 

Besides, it seems to me that LTBS just wants some reassurance, not diet advice. And that you can only get from your lover who, as RP points out, says he doesn't mind the weight or he wouldn't be with you.

 

So is the real question why you can't believe that? Or is the question: Why, if you've accepted this as your plight, you still feel so insecure?

 

I'm really not sure.

[newlychubby]

To hell with what your husband thinks so long as you are happy.

 

I was dating someone for almost 2 years, he always said he liked "softer" women. I worked out 3-4 times a week and always watched what I ate. Over the summer I went on vacation and enjoyed myself for the first time, eating what I wanted, not working out. Well...after 2 months of that I became soft lost muscle tone and gained about 20 or so lbs. I don't like the fact that my clothes no longer fit, going from a size 3/4 to a very tight 8 but being lazy is much more fun. Needless to say, my so called boyfriend said I was getting fat and was no longer interested.

[lovestobesexed]

Yes my weight started back when I was 12 and was raped by my brother and

was in several abusive relationships.

And even now, when I am depressed. I stuff my face.

The only good thing about me being heavy when I was getting beat up is

that I could stick up for myself.

And I was not afraid to do it either.

 

When I was not big, I was terrified in my abusive relationship.

I would be the mans rag doll.

 

But yes 2006 is going to be a better year.

Going to get a membership to Curves.

[Becoming]

The only good thing about me being heavy when I was getting beat up is

that I could stick up for myself.

And I was not afraid to do it either.

 

When I was not big, I was terrified in my abusive relationship.

I would be the mans rag doll.

 

Interesting. So the weight carries not only protection but a certain amount of weight in the relationship as well?

[michellebelle]

LTBS, you will probably feel much better about yourself and your body if you lose weight. Start with eating very little. The only way tolose weight is to be hungry all the time. Sleep a lot and walk or swim also.

 

You will not only lower the risk of health problems if you lose weight, but think of all the hot guys that will be after you! It's not that hard to be hungry. Just keep your goals in mind.

 

If this guy tells you he doesn't mind his weight, I would believe him. After all, if he did, he wouldn't sleep with you.

 

Regarding your hubby... well he was honest with you about his preference. My husband doesn't like it fat and he is honest about it. He complains when I gain 10 lbs. It bothered me at the beginning, but then I realized he's right. I do look much better when I am thin and I am glad he is willing to keep me motivated to stay thin.

 

You know what-its that kind of bad advice that helps nobody.First of all I highly reccomend the book called "the obesity MYTH".People have been so brainwashed by the pharmaceutical industry they will believe anything.Being fat was labeled a disease to keep the drug industry and doctors in business.100,000 people every year are killed by pharmaceuticals,that doesnt count the number of people injured.The obesity death rates have been seriously exagerated.Its all a big marketing ploy.Only a few hundred years ago the ugly stick women were tossed to the side and the voluptuous women were treated like goddesses.If I were a man I wouldnt touch a stick lady with a ten foot pole.

[michellebelle]

Pretty much he is a great guy with the exception of when he gets on a roll. His insults can sometimes be daily other times not so much.

I pretty much stay with him because of his health, he needs me to take care of him or he would be dead.

And that he is the only man that has not physically assaulted me, but his emotional abuse is just as bad.

 

I am not convinced that another man would want me. They would see me from the outside and think I am not a nice person. Whereas I have a heart of gold and people have told me many positive things about myself.

They say I have so many positive things going for me that my weight is not an issue. But to many men, it is.

At least that is what I think.

I have never been without a man, just have not met the right one.

 

Tell him he has a small penis,that should shut him up.Better yet start eating nothing but salads and tell him that you can only do it if he eats what you eat.Starve the bastard.

[lovestobesexed]

I like that advice.

And I am going to tell him this.