Darkstar Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 ok I need help,advice or something. ITs about this girl that I have known for about a month now were pretty good friends and I was almost certain she liked me but Its so dang hard to tell!! Anyways heres my story.... Ok so yeah I like this girl and Im pretty sure she knows cause I was trying to make it real obvious (looking at her in the eyes when talking,touching her) stuff like that. So It was going fairly well and all She had no problem talking to me or anything,like she would always run up to me and always be the first to talk. Anyways one day I somehow get the courage to ask her out and this is how it goes..... Im like" hey whats up" shes like"nothing really" Im like" cool cool, so you doing anything this weekend" shes like" well.....not really" Soooo this is where it gets akward im like " well you wanna do somthing this weekend like see a movie or somthing" shes gets kinda quiet and starts to act wierd ands like"well....well...im kinda busy like doing stuff and like other stuff" then there was that like akward 5 seconds where I relized it and im like "well....guess ill see ya later" and she kinda looked at the ground and said real quiet" bye" ok WTF Im sooo confused I so thought i had this I mean she would always initiated conversations,she never seemed like she didnt want to be around me...I need help lol maybe she just got nervouse I ahave no freakin clue. Link to post Share on other sites
archbean Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 where there's mixed signals, there's mixed interpretations too... i think she probably does like you, but doesn't want to date, or maybe doesn't know how to handle dating or something. she might not like you as more than a friend, at least not yet, i mean, you say it's only been a month, maybe she needs more time to figure out how she feels aout you. maybe you could ask her to go somewhere like a movie with you and some friends, so it's not quite a date... or just give her time and ask again in a week or so...don't get discouraged already, be patient Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 17, 2005 Author Share Posted December 17, 2005 hey thanks for reply man, Yeah I know it could be alot of things I mean, I dont plan on giving up unles she REALLY makes it clear she like hates me or somthing.Im just wondering how should I rebound from this? Im ean I already asked her to go to movies with me and she seemed like really scared or somthing I have no idea I mean Im 17 shes 16 I have no idea.I dont want to sound like desprate like PLEASE GO WITH ME!! lol I just like you know want you know to show her that I like her and know how she feels about it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 She could be shy, or a nervous person...At 16 she may not have alot of confidence in showing how she feels about guys yet... DO something nice for her and see how she reacts. Find out how she takes her coffee (if she drinks coffee) and bring her one. With a muffin or a donut. Something very casual. Then, if she responds happily (you'll be able to tell if she is truely thankful or just saying the words) then say to her, "next time, let's go grab a cup of coffee together." Don't make a big issue out of it, be casual and cool. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 Im like" hey whats up" shes like"nothing really" Im like" cool cool, so you doing anything this weekend" shes like" well.....not really" Soooo this is where it gets akward im like " well you wanna do somthing this weekend like see a movie or somthing" shes gets kinda quiet and starts to act wierd ands like"well....well...im kinda busy like doing stuff and like other stuff" then there was that like akward 5 seconds where I relized it and im like "well....guess ill see ya later" and she kinda looked at the ground and said real quiet" bye" Haha, well good attempt at least my friend. Ill tell you exactly what went wrong. The thing about asking a girl out is it depends on how you say it and body language....you dont want to come off as unconfident do you? if girls tell you they're doing nothing, usually it means theyre opening their schedule to you. When she replied that she wasnt doing anything, you should have said - "Well if you're not doing anything, there's this show called ____ at ___ theater, lets get together on (day) at (time) and catch the premiere." or, if you want to just make it simple and set the location and time over the phone do this- "Well if you're not doing anything, lets get together this weekend....let me get your #." and then you say bye and leave after getting the #...and call when you feel like it. Sounds like SHE DOES like you. But the problem with a guy approaching a girl always is about confidence. think about this if you were a girl and a guy approached you coming off as nervous, awkward, stuttering voice (unsure of himself) saying "well, you wanna do something this weekend like watch a movie or something?" ....no offense but your handing your balls to her....because you cant make a simple decision. Plus if you're all nervous and all, she'll end up feeling the vibe and react the same way towards you. Be cool, calm, collected, & DECISIVE. Be the leader. Dont make the same mistake 2x and go ask her out again, this time as a man. ONE last important thing...ABSOLUTELY NO MOVIES FOR FIRST DATES. If anything, coffee, dinner, skating, pool....a great first date is where you can communicate, NOT sit in silence in the dark. P.S. no offense to the ladies, but you guys are giving bad advice to this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Butternut Posted December 17, 2005 Share Posted December 17, 2005 mmm, same thing happened to me, bro. for me, it turned out she was just being friendly, so you know... actually, i also blew the delivery pretty much the way monkey00 described so it could be that. i say you should back off and collect more signals before you try again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 17, 2005 Author Share Posted December 17, 2005 Wow, thanks for the awesome replys. yeah Im going to step back for a little and see how she takes it.I havnt talked to her since my "attempt" so we shall see.Yeah and i wont do the whole movie thing like you say maybe coffe?who knows Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 I think she might have been embarassed because she just saw you as a friend ( at least for now ) I would back off a lil bit and give her some space. Its during this time that she has time to think about what she wants. She may just see you as a friend. She may just be shy and akward at 16.. Give her some time. Next time you ask her out , say it with confidence. Just say " Hey the new King Kong thriller is playing , would you like to go see it with me on Saturday night ? " Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 19, 2005 Author Share Posted December 19, 2005 why must girls be so confusing?lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 20, 2005 Author Share Posted December 20, 2005 ok guys:( well me and her are in the same Tae kwon Do class, and she completly and utterly ignored me,she didnt even say hello or look at me once. Im thinking this is not a very good sign and and ready to just give up, or walk up to her and say,"ok do you like me or not!!!!" Help please lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 21, 2005 Author Share Posted December 21, 2005 anyone? (need 10 chracters:cool: ) Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 I might be wrong but she may not want to date you and see's you as a really good guy friend and thats all !! I think some signals did get crossed!! Maybe she is scared that your friendship will be ruined if your pursue something more!! I don't get why she would ignore you unless she is playing really hard to get!! Suggest you go to the movies as friends and take it from there !! Tell her it won't be a date just like you normally do no strings attached and see where it goes don't be pushy !! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 21, 2005 Share Posted December 21, 2005 I think she's probably just a little nervous around you after what had happened last time you asked her out. She's not sure hwo to react when she sees you. Why wait for her to say hi? you should. "hey hows it going?" do a little fluff talk and ask her out again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkstar Posted December 21, 2005 Author Share Posted December 21, 2005 you sure Bro? It just seems alittle to soon man. I was thinking of stepping back for a week or two then trying again. I guess Ill go for it again. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 you sure Bro? It just seems alittle to soon man. I was thinking of stepping back for a week or two then trying again. I guess Ill go for it again. in situations like these, it's best to listen to your gut. However the problem in waiting too long is what sometimes can happpen is they think you're not interested and they also begin to lose interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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