girl i dislike-i now where she works

[joel]

remember the story i told you about the time i askd a girl out-leanne and she said No maybe next time -2 days later she told her freind, her freind told everyone in my class-small college about me askin her out. well it was embarassing and humiliating. just for askin a guy u really liked out-yea a crush and she did this to me. i got these looks and smiles -like i was an idiot-you guys said what a biatch, or immature, this . she lead me on wiht the glances right so i asked her out. this happen a yr ago

 

well 2 days ago i went into shoppers-drug store and supermarket-but no grocery and saw her working there as a cashier-its quiete a big store. my thought was to phone up one time and talk to the manager and make up a story about her being rude, made the wrong change, slow or something and get her fired or disciplined.

 

i usally don;t do this kind of thing but what leanne did to me was really embarassing and not nice. shes really stuck up and i hated her for what she did. what do u guys think any cashier storeis-where u had to complain and hated the service to manager or just was so mad or hated, tell me i need em.

 

i don;t really care b/c leanne won't be returning back to the college-and msot to all of her freinds and to all will be gone-i took a semester off and took like 4 courses and 3 in summer- one more semester i am done. i really doubt we would be meeting up again-any time in the future. in her friendster it says she in anohter school, i guess she works and school.

 

so what i need from u guys are convincing stories -about a cashier gving u bad service or what not.

[Craig]

Joel you need to grow up, let this go and learn to deal with life. Getting even for a perceived slight is like the lowest thing you can do.

[Neptune]

Joel, with that attitude maybe these girls that won`t have anything to do with you are getting it right. I agree that sometimes people will treat you badly. And I thing this girl did a bad thing. But, you just have to let it go.

[loony]

After reading dozens of your posts I think the only good advice I can give you, and that maybe everybody else might consider telling you, too, is to go to a psychologist. Who knows what kind of problem you have, but you seem in need of serious help and nobody on this board will be able to give it to you.

[RecordProducer]

Joel, did you really think that anyone here would support your idea and actually give you advice on how to successfully follow through it? I don't think so. I hope you wanted to hear some mature suggestion about dropping that silly plan and you knew you'd hear that.

 

There is nothing wrong or embarrassing in you asking her out or her saying "no" or even her telling everyone that you asked her out. In fact, if she talked about it, it means she was flattered by your invitation. If there was something embarrassing about it, she wouldn't have told anyone.

 

It's only embarrassing in your mind. If anyone made fun of you, I am sure they didn't mean anything bad. They can only admire your courage to ask a woman out, cuz many guys don't have the guts to do such a simple thing. It would have been embarrassing if you stalked her or something like that.

 

Some men never realize that asking a woman out is th most natural thing in the world. They get mad at the women who reject them, lose self-esteem, change criteria about women, hate all women, etc.

 

Learning to deal with rejection and defeat is a trait that everybody appreciates. The things that we were laughed at for at school made us interesting and special in the adults' world. Stand behind your words and deeds. You liked the girl and asked her out. You did nothing wrong. Don't regret the things that you believed in because of defeat. And don't stop asking girls out because of fear of rejection.

 

Once you outgrow that fear (some men never do), you will feel good about trying - never bad about not succeeding. Keep asking girls out. Some day Miss Right will say "yes."

 

Now about this plan in the grocery store... if you do it, not only that you will do something really immoral for no reason (just out of your personal insecurities), but this girl might tell everyone at school about what you did and that would be REALLY embarrassing!

 

Don't think that because she is not returning to school, you can run away from your dirty deed! Some day when you least expect, she may go to your boss and tell him all kinds of things about you - including the truth about how you set her up for no reason.

 

Finally, you said she is not coming back to school so that's why you would do it. Otherwise you would be afraid, right? So it makes you a coward!