Jump to content

How many chances at love can one person have?

blue5000

By blue5000,
in Second Chances

 Share Followers 1

Recommended Posts

blue5000

blue5000

Posted
Posted

I seem to be asking a lot of questions lately. Here is yet another one -- How many chances at love do you think one person can have? Is it infinite? I'm in my late 30s and I have loved, really loved, two men in my life. I do believe it gets harder to meet someone as you get older. Perhaps b/c of availability or b/c you're more set in your ways, who knows? So, I'm curious to hear what people think about this.

Link to post
Share on other sites
slubberdegullion

slubberdegullion

Posted
Posted

Well, it may not be infinite. There are, after all, a limited number of people on the planet. But speaking from people that I know personally, love can burst forth well into old age.

Link to post
Share on other sites
Craig

Craig

Posted
Posted
How many chances at love do you think one person can have? Is it infinite? . . . I do believe it gets harder to meet someone as you get older.
If we are talking about love and not infatuation, then practically speaking (given the number of people on the planet and the limited time you have here) it is infinite. Getting in love doesn't happen over night. :)

 

It doesn't get harder to meet people as you get older it's just that some people haven't adjusted the way they meet people. If you want to meet people and are finding the old ways don't work for you then you need to "think out of the box". No moral, ethical or legal action is unreasonable if it assists you to get the love you want. Who cares what others might think?

Link to post
Share on other sites
grace2005

grace2005

Posted
Posted

The sad truth is that it does get harder to meet someone as we get older. Having said that it's probably too late for me if I really wanted to start over with someone new seeing as how I'm in my mid 20s. Worst case scenario is that I'm going to die old and alone. I might as well give up my dreams now. It isn't like I deserve a woman anyway. Oh well. merry CHRIST mas

Link to post
Share on other sites
Craig

Craig

Posted
Posted
The sad truth is that it does get harder to meet someone as we get older. Having said that it's probably too late for me if I really wanted to start over with someone new seeing as how I'm in my mid 20s. Worst case scenario is that I'm going to die old and alone. I might as well give up my dreams now. It isn't like I deserve a woman anyway. Oh well. merry CHRIST mas
So you're in your mid twenties and all washed up huh? Tell me a story about what it was like when the earth was still cooling, you old dinosaur you. :lmao:
Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
blue5000

blue5000

Posted
  • Author
Posted
The sad truth is that it does get harder to meet someone as we get older. Having said that it's probably too late for me if I really wanted to start over with someone new seeing as how I'm in my mid 20s. Worst case scenario is that I'm going to die old and alone. I might as well give up my dreams now. It isn't like I deserve a woman anyway. Oh well. merry CHRIST mas

 

I have to say considering I'm in my late thirties, you just made me feel pretty lousy and hopeless. No offense.

Link to post
Share on other sites
slubberdegullion

slubberdegullion

Posted
Posted
I have to say considering I'm in my late thirties, you just made me feel pretty lousy and hopeless. No offense.

Don't give it a second thought. I'm in my mid-40s and have a wide variety of female friends, a few of which are interested in something a little closer. So don't worry about it one bit.

Link to post
Share on other sites
  • Author
blue5000

blue5000

Posted
  • Author
Posted
Don't give it a second thought. I'm in my mid-40s and have a wide variety of female friends, a few of which are interested in something a little closer. So don't worry about it one bit.

 

Thanks slubberdesuillion, I needed a nice word. Been feeling really down lately thinking I'm going to spend my life alone, don't know how I got to this place, what's wrong with me, etc. And sad that my ex, who is only 35, is in such a different place than I am merely b/c he's three years younger and a man. Know what I mean?

Link to post
Share on other sites
Lonely nice guy

Lonely nice guy

Posted
Posted

As you get older, it does get more difficult to meet people. I have just turned 40, and I'm still looking. I made some stupid mistakes in the past, let people go, didn't make a move etc. I am paying for it now, but hopefully I've learned from my mistakes.

 

It gets harder to meet people because as we get older we get set in our ways, and it's a lot to expect you and your new lover to change. You both own your own separate home, you both have successful careers, you both have friends you've known for years. It's difficult to merge these two lives.

 

But if you have a big heart, you can literally let in as many people as can fit. If your outlook in life is positive, it'll work. If you're bitter and your heart is brittle, you may not have any luck meeting someone. They say that when you have more children, your love doesn't get divided, it gets multiplied. The heart has an amazing capacity for love. It's a powerful emotion.

Link to post
Share on other sites
basscatcher

basscatcher

Posted
Posted

Love is no chance. It is a choice. You can love as many times as you chose.

 

I can honestly say that I have loved many times. Some deeper then others. Each in their own way. I have many many many many failed relationships in my life time; thusfar, and I can say that I found something to love about each man that has been in my life and I can cherish each of those qualities or traits they had that I fell in love with.

 

Age has nothing to do with love. Neither does luck.

 

It's about choice. I always find something good in everyone I meet, even if it is just a small little something.

 

When we feel alone, lost, like a failure, unsuccessful, etc we need to shift our minds to possitive thoughts. I psych myself up and tell myself I will not be the loser my father said I was going to be. I chose to pick myself up and move forward--no matter how hard it is... I give myself time to cry, hurt, feel bad and even feel a little bit sorry for myself then I let my stubborn and bullheaded attitude kick in and I stand up and march forth. I take a look at what has pushed me down and I search for the lesson in it that I am suppose to learn. I take that as a tool and move forth.

 

I know I am no so ugly that no one cannot look at me. People smile at me, People say hi to me. I have friends, I have family.

 

WE ALL DO....

 

Put a smile on your face, be thankful for what you DO have and march on forth. You will love again. You will find love. Someone will find you, Someone will love you. It is inevitable. Even if you try to push love away it will just happen.. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT.. Stop trying to make it happen and just let it happen when it is suppose to happen....

 

Its hard to do but you need to get your mind set... Only you can take yourself out of this depressive state of feelings and thoughts. I know firsthand.. You have to do it for yourself.. Love is a choice. It will happen..

Link to post
Share on other sites
riobikini

riobikini

Posted
Posted

RE: "...I psych myself up and tell myself I will not be the loser my father said I was going to be."

 

Padameckla, I read your post and you are definately NOT a loser!

 

You are a bright, articulate, warm, (and I'll bet funny, too), lovely person .(judging by the pic, if it was you), -with a kick-ass, down-to-earth, honest attitude.

 

Your father was simply WRONG!

 

(Smile.

 

Take Care.

 

-Rio

Link to post
Share on other sites
 Share
Followers 1
Go to topic listing
×
×
  • Create New...