Shindig Posted December 18, 2005 Share Posted December 18, 2005 I've known a guy for about 5 months. He has always been very respectful and treats me like a friend but I've been interested in him romantically for about 3 months and I told him so 2 months ago. He didn't really say much about it but we started hanging out a lot more. He works adjacent to one of my favorite hangouts (squash courts) and we'll go out for lunch or dinner after a game with other mutual friends from the same locale. We text about once a day (which he apparently doesn't do with any other of our mutual friends) and do the group dinners twice a week or so. Periodically he has met up with me and out-of-town guests who come to visit for dinner as well. Twice we've ended up at one of our houses or the other with mutual friends after a night out. We've never been intimate physically apart from a hug and kiss on the cheek when greeting (not atypical for our town). He always seems concerned when I mention doctor appointments and can tell/inquires when I sound stressed. I'm not sure if he's taking his time in getting to know me because I tend to be a little more aggressive than most women and can be impatient. He is fairly reserved but at the same time somewhat immature. I know I'll have a good friend in him no matter what but I'm wondering if I should tell him I'm interested in him romantically again or just appreciate the relationship for what it is and move on. We have a lot of common interests (sports, political philosophies, food, wine, lifestyle, etc.), I admire him as a person, and we always have fun when we're together - presumably all good reasons to date a person OR be friends with them. I guess I'm looking for a tiebreaker between my head and my heart. Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted December 19, 2005 Share Posted December 19, 2005 Shindig, I think you've already made it clear. It would be overkill to remind him. He knows. He hasn't shown any interest in you other than as a friend so I believe you'd be too aggressive. I think you're going to have to accept that he's not that into you. Cliché as it sounds, guys that like you don't act like that. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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