Kenyth Posted December 27, 2005 Share Posted December 27, 2005 that you guys arn't judging me so harshly. I am a day dreamer. I tend to dream about another life that is all rosie and happy and free from any responsibility. I do know that doesn't exist. I am happy in this life. I guess Iv'e just lost that lov'in feelin for now. I need to find ways to make it new again. Like when we were first dating. We think the same thoughts and say them outloud at the same time on a regular basis. Kinda weird' date=' but just goes to show that we are two of a kind. I guess with 35 looming around the corner and having not ever had the chance to be brave enough to be on my own I just wonder what it would be like. I want to go out and dance, have a drink and be relaxed and have fun, when we go out together it feels forced and we can never find anything fun to do, we end up going home to sleep, so I just figured single would be a lot more fun, but I guess you need someone to enjoy the fun with right? Why does 34 feel so old? When we go out it's all college kids or younger. I feel like a chaperone![/quote'] Oooooooohhhhh.............I know where you're coming from. Once you hit your mid-thirties, going out just isn't the same anymore. The club scene feels a little alien to you. They have other bars targetted at the thirty-somethings. You just have to find them. They tend to be a little quieter, play music from a couple years back, and have retro bands come play in them. There's less dancing, more food, and more talking. I can't say I don't appreciate being older , wiser and more in control of myself. I've done some pretty stupid things in clubs during my early to mid twenties with divorce and less than optimal friends fueling my idiocy. Link to post Share on other sites
SamandBran Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Hey, Its...I see that you see that yes most of us have been there if not there stilll...lol. But, yet, most of us are still happily married. You will be ok. Just take some of our advice and try to remain true to yourself. If you wanted to be a chef before the kids, then take classes and go be a chef! I had my son and was a single mom for awhile but even still, I did everything I wanted to do. And now that I am married to my wonderful husband, he supports me fully and it makes it even easier for me to achieve the goals that I have for myself in my career. Good luck, hon and you'll be ok. You'll get through this. And, yes, try some of the older clubs. I am only 23 and already feeling out of place at the club....lol. I actually enjoy music that my parents used to listen to when I was growing up. Marvin Gaye and Teddy Pendergrass. Keep us posted and hang in there!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 you miss your freedom? but, your hubby is totally cool with you joining sports teams, and hanging out with your friends. sounds like you already have quite a bit of freedom! You mentioned that you love your part-time job. but, do you love your husband? You didn't say much about him in your post. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 oops. I missed a subsequent post in there in which you did talk about your husband. You do love him. Excellent! Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 I guess Iv'e just lost that lov'in feelin for now. I need to find ways to make it new again. Like when we were first dating. I hear ya there...we are trying to do that too. It's tough to keep things passionate and sparky etc- takes work. Sometimes I wish we could just relive that first rush of love and lust. I turn 33 this year. Suddenly I am in a new bracket...it does feel a bit challenging sometimes. Everyone is just waiting for us to have kids now. Link to post Share on other sites
It's all good Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 After all the holiday hub-bub I decided that I just need to look at things in a different light. I tend to dwell on the neg. and not the pos. So I decided to try to be more touchy feely, we went out on a DATE to a friends house to play games and eat pizza....drink a bit. We had a great time and when we got home we put on some slow music and...well let's jsut say we didn't "Sleep" much that night! It felt like it did in the beginning when all is new! I guess we just need to make more time for us in the sense of really re-connecting again. We had a really deep conversation, we have not done that in a long time. We actually talked about some really cool relationship subjects, which I might post about later. All in all we are on the right track again! YEAH!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
michaelk Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 Congrats! With all of the demands of parenting, it can be hard to remember to take care of your relationship with your spouse. Sounds like you managed to do a little of just that, and I applaud you for it! If you can continue to 'date' from time to time, I'm sure your situation will improve even more. Best wishes! Link to post Share on other sites
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