lost/found? Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 How can you help your ex realize you have changed. I had alot of problems with drugs throughout my 5 year relationship with my now ex girlfriend. I am now completely clean and i want a second chance. I believe that she wants to try again but i don't think that she can get past some of my mistakes. I want to show her i am the man that she fell in love with once again. I believe if she were to give me another shot that she would realize that we make a great team and can accomplish anything we set out to do. So if anyone can offer some advice that would be amazing. " I had everything I need" Link to post Share on other sites
JCA Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Rule of thumb: For every year of screwing up it takes about 5 to undo people's minds. That's why it's important to not screw up. Link to post Share on other sites
malachai Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 this might sound a little bit hokey, but i believe the best way to convince someone you've changed is to show them, not tell them. unfortuanately, to do that, i think you're going to have to start back from the beginning. like you are meeting her for the first time again. if she still has feelings for you, she will be (understandbly) very reserved about trying to make things work. which means you can't go back to her thinking that you can just start back where you were before. do you still keep in touch with her? do you guys talk still? if so, just work on hanging out with her with no expectations. let her see all the changes in you that you have gone through. give her a reason to fall back in love with you. you can't persuade her through words how you are different, she needs to see it. this is assuming that she still has a spot in her heart for you, and hasn't given that up. hope things turn out well man. Link to post Share on other sites
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