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Thought your relationship was Hopeless but Got your second chance eventually.


winter2005

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Sleeps w/Butterflies

I have yet to officially get my "second chance" but there is contact between us. He left me because he was tired of our arguing and was under going alot of stress. He had a horrible accident this past year and almost died from a brain injury, he is not completely well and may perhaps never be the same. Anyway, we broke up this past september, I had 3 weeks of limbo till finally in october I asked him to go away. I took a few weeks to get used to not taking care of him, not going to his house to cook him dinner, to not talk to him all time, not drive him to work, not be there for him, etc. Well, did that and he was desperately seeking me out, emailing me, texting me, driving past my house etc. I finally unblocked him on my instant mesanger 6 weeks later. We met and had 3 dates since. Getting back with the person that broke your heart is difficult especially in the situation I am in that this is not the same guy. He is very depressed and frustrated with his life, not where he wants to be, meanwhile I am 24 college graduate and run my own company. I have been seeing him yet being distant, it is making him wonder so our last date things got a bit confrontational all because these past weeks he has been saying "i miss you" a few times to me and I replied "I know." Anyway to make a long story short date #3 got me really nowhere as he is not sure whether he wants to be in a relationship yet he acts like he is still my b/f. .

 

I think I may have been a little too strong in when he was telling me he loved and missed me when we came into contact and I didn't give those words back to him. I think sometimes the people that broke our hearts are so selfish and expect for us to give and share the love without the commitment. However I am not one for casual relationships which I expressed to him and he got even more upset saying he is not casual bla bla he was pretty angry telling me I will never find a man who loves me as much as him etc... This is where I pull back just a bit. When you do have contact with your ex don't be so available but always be nice even if you get mad at them, never show you are angry. Time will tell where mine is headed...perhaps others have more successful stories they can share...:love:

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