Sailynn Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 For the past five months, my ex-GF and I have spent some time together. I have been very patient, friendly, yet letting her know my status. The pay off has now come. We have become more than friends. We're GF and BF again. We have become romantic and serious. We're having fun, working on charity projects together, attending church together, meeting her and my friends together, cooking together, joined a health club together, spending down time together and making plans for future trips to go skiing, etc. She came to me this week and said it would be great if I took her to visit my parents. To me, this is a big sign that she has feelings for me. At the beginning of our friendship, she set a boundary that we not include family, but now, she wants to remove that boundary. I feel this is good news. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 is there some sexual activity taking place? if so then you are BF/GF. if no then you are not BF/GF. Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Leave it up to Alpha! Hahaha! J/K!! I have to wonder as well what leads you to believe that the friendship has moved beyond that? Have you two discussed it or have you been intimate, ect. Link to post Share on other sites
Sleeps w/Butterflies Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Good question...and who initiated the "talk"? If there was one or did things just happen "naturally":( Link to post Share on other sites
Donburi Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Yes, please go into more detail about it! I'm kinda in the same situation...so, did being "just friends" with your ex really work out? Congrats if it did. The more happy endings on this site, the better. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 22, 2005 Share Posted December 22, 2005 Congrats. You're doing it right by taking things slow! Let us hear about your progress from time to time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sailynn Posted December 22, 2005 Author Share Posted December 22, 2005 She broke up with me... NC for 8 months.. She wanted to talk... I stated I wanted a relationship not a friendship... Not agreeable to her...She wanted to be friends... Resumed NC... 5 months later, She contacted me again... Wanted to really and try to be friends...Said she can't forget me... I said, "whatever...I'm with other people, so sometimes maybe you can catch me".... We began talking over the past five months and we've had huge, very disclosing talks. We straightened out a lot of stuff that damaged the relationship in the first place. It's all being quite different now. She said she was wrong to have broken up with me... I told her we shouldn't be apart, but I am not so open to make myself vulnerable unless she is willing to do the same... I've tried to maintain my own status as a male with the life I have, the friends I enjoy and let her know it... She has recognized that I have a life and that I don't need her, but that I do care for her and would wish to be with her, if it is right... She's picked up the ball on this... She's told me she has serious feelings for me... We've shared intimacy...(enough said) Long time coming, I might add... We spend lots of time together now... It's been slow going, emotionally, but it seems to have turned a corner... All along, I haven't kissed her butt, but I have shown that I care and sometimes that meant engaging in a little tough and sometimes tender love. I've demonstrated my willingness to stand up for myself and put myself out there for her. We're talking about everything we do, in terms of "WE". We can do this. We can join this. We can work together.....we, we, we. So, I would say, when she requested that we travel to see my parents, I felt the tide had turned in my favor. She has included me in her family and friends circle too. WE are receiving invitations to parties, not me or her - and then bring someone along, but WE - US as a couple. So, our friends view us as a couple again. I recognize there is still a ways to go on this second try, but it's going great so far and I'm willing to stick it out now. Link to post Share on other sites
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