I Loathe My Mother

[jake-vig]

Boy, I can't stand my mother. Geez! She forced me to quit school, just so I can work and pay the rent, so when she gets her paycheque she can just go shop.

 

She tells me things like, well you owe me because I gave birth to you, you're a loser, you were a mistake, etc. Right now, she is going to marry a man she has never met. And she met him off Craig's List!

 

She's a bloody loser. She has no compassion for anyone, she is selfish and a b****! Oh God, I can't stand her. I'm usually a laid back, nice and cool guy but when I'm around her my blood pressure just rises and boy do we clash. We last spoke on the phone 5 minutes ago and said "Oh just wait till I get home. You didn't get the $5,000 loan? Just wait 'till I get home."

 

Anyway hopefully, or actually not, someone empathizes with me.

 

Thanks.

[Roo-bie2]

Only you allow her to control YOU.

 

Say to yourself "I am not responcible for her happiness." Then say to yourself "I am the only responcible for my happiness." Until you take these to heart you will always be misserable.

[HokeyReligions]

Sounds like you need to get out and on your own NOW. You should get some counseling to help you deal with the emotional abuse she has heaped on you too. I know what its like to be raised by someone who constantly puts you down, tells you they wish you had never been born, are a loser, etc. You might not think that it will affect your whole life - but it will. No child deserves to be talked to that way by any adult - but especially by their parent.

 

Is there another family member you can go to? A pastor or friend? Are you working? Do you have an EAP at work? Go to them. Don't be afraid to ask for help from others -- when you get the help you need now you will be able to help someone else later. You can't change her, but you can change your life by getting away from that situation.